A woman has sparked outrage after 'ruining' her friend's wedding because she felt the groom had destroyed their close bond. She explained how her best friend "changed" after meeting her husband-to-be, and started spending more time with him and less with her.
In a fit of jealousy, she decided to confront him during her maid-of-honour speech, ultimately "ruining the mood" of the special occasion. Taking to Reddit, she said: "My childhood best friend got married. Her husband is very lovely and he takes care of her.
"They've been together for seven years and I've known him pretty well through my friendship with my best friend - but after they got serious things changed, our friendship changed. Yes, a lot of you will say this is natural and priorities change and I agree. I agree that things cannot always be the same and how her priority now is her husband and the family she'll create with him - but still.
"I feel completely mad about it. I know I should respect her and move on with my life but I have to also make peace with the fact that this change does not make me feel well."
The maid-of-honour says she cried her way through the entire ceremony - not because she "felt touched" but because she was 'mourning their friendship'.
"That day was the day that my hopes of things returning back to what they used to be were gone," she added.
"Everyone thought it was cute and how touched and happy I was but I was not. But, I couldn't say it out loud."
When it came time for the speeches, she decided to freestyle rather than read out the speech she'd spent weeks preparing.
She said: "I had a maid-of-honour speech ready but all of it was just a lie so I decided to scrap my actual maid-of-honour speech and speak honestly.
"I said that I don't want to lie, I want to be honest but I'm not happy. I'm not happy that this person she married is the reason our friendship changed. I'm not happy on this day.
"I just pretended the whole day out of her sake but it would be a shame of me to get up there and lie about how happy and excited I am.
"I said I'm not happy but regardless I have to suck it up and congratulate the happy couple.
"There was awkward silence for two to three minutes after my speech. Many guests gave me judgy looks.
"My best friend was whispering something with her new husband. The entire night my best friend ignored me. I asked to speak to her and she angrily told me how it's not the right time."
Devastated by her outburst, the bide ignored her texts and calls for two days until finally confronting her about the situation.
"It had been two days and my best friend hadn't texted or called me and also ignored my texts and calls," she added.
"During that time, many of our common friends said that what I did was very selfish and that masking selfishness as honesty is not an excuse to make things awkward on the wedding.
"My best friend contacted me two days after and only asked me if my purpose was to ruin the mood of her wedding.
"I said, 'No. The purpose was to be honest.'
"She said I'm trying to play the victim and how she can't believe I haven't even shown a bit of remorse about what I said.
"I said I can't apologise for being honest.
"She said many people believe I'm an a***hole, including her. Her husband now feels uncomfortable about me. "
Wanting to know whether she was out of line, the maid-of-honour has taken to Reddit to ask users for their thoughts.
In response, one user said: "She was upset about the marriage affecting her relationship with best friend - so she proceeds to completely nuke the relationship with her selfish, poor me speech. I hope her best friend never speaks to her again."
Another user added: "She's lucky no one 'helped' her leave the reception immediately afterwards."
A third user said: "I always hate the way people make it sound like getting married has to inevitably change friendship, because I don't agree.
"I think our society puts one kind of relationship (romantic) on a pedestal above all other types, and I don't think you have to structure your life that way if you don't want to.
"My friends are just as important to me as my spouse."
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