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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Philippa Perry

I’m in my 50s, deeply in love for the first time – and terrified

Couple walking holding hands at sunset
‘The intensity of my own emotions surprises me and scares me.’ Photograph: Dennis Hallinan/Getty Images

The question I am a woman in my 50s and I have recently fallen deeply in love with someone I’ve known for many years. Beyond the strong physical attraction between us, we seem to have in common several emotional and intellectual attributes and, for the first time, I feel I am perfectly compatible with a man and we both feel the same.

At times I feel terrified. Do I deserve to be happy? Beyond some very close friendships, and strong family ties, particularly with my parents who have both died, I have not found this kind of emotional closeness in any of my previous long-term relationships. I always found meaning in my life through my work. This relationship started after a serious health problem was resolved.

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