People can spend years building a trusting relationship, but it can be shattered in just a second.
In a recent post on the subreddit r/TrueOffMyChest, platform user PlusDefinition3458 explained that she found out her partner had secretly changed his will.
This may not have been such a big deal, but the couple had an agreement that they would be each other’s main beneficiaries if something happened to them, and the man went behind her back to replace her with his sister.
So, the woman was left wondering how she should navigate the unforeseen situation.
A person’s will is not just a legal document; it’s a testament to their values
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And after this woman discovered that of her partner’s, she was devastated
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In recent years, there has been a surge in similar cases
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The Redditor’s doubts about the future with her partner are understandable. Dr. Gary Chapman, clinical psychologist and author of The Five Love Languages, says that if you cannot trust your partner, it is difficult to feel close to them.
When people are preoccupied with doubts and suspicions, they may be less willing to be vulnerable and share their true feelings, which can lead to distance and a decline in intimacy and affection.
When trust is compromised, we’re no longer sure about our partner’s reliability, anticipate betrayal, become overly protective, and avoid commitment.
Trust issues often also result in a breakdown of open and honest communication, leading to jealousy, increased conflict, and other destructive behaviors such as snooping, stalking, and in some cases, infidelity.
According to law firm SAS Daniels, there has been a surge over the last few years in conflicts surrounding wills. This is due to several factors, including rises in house prices, families becoming more complex with the high rate of divorce and remarriage, and just people living longer.
Looking back on their cases, the team at SAS Daniels believes that the most common reasons why families argue over a will are:
- the document is unfair;
- it does not make reasonable provision for a particular person;
- the testator was unduly influenced to make the will in a certain way;
- the will has not been properly executed.
So although each case might be a little bit different, the Reddit story serves as a stark reminder that more money oftentimes means more problems.
As her story went viral, the woman joined the discussion in the comments
