When you choose the people closest to you that you want to have as members of your wedding party, it's expected that you'll accept them as they are, and not demand that they change their hair colour, weight, or any other attributes. After all, your wedding party is supposed to be your closest friends and family, so why would you want them to change?
One woman, however, was forced to quit her role as a bridesmaid in her friend's wedding just hours before it was due to begin - after she was told she wouldn't be able to wear the sunglasses she always wears due to an eye condition.
The woman claimed she has anisocoria - a condition in which a person has unequal pupil sizes - and as one of her pupils is always dilated, she also has photophobia, which is a discomfort toward bright lights, in that eye.
To combat her photophobia, the woman wears sunglasses almost all the time, but was told by her friend Pam that she would have to ditch them for the wedding because they wouldn't "fit the aesthetic".
Instead, the bride wanted her to wear a "pretty lace eyepatch" that she would have to rush out and buy in the few hours left before the wedding began - but the woman refused, opting to ditch the ceremony entirely.
In a post on Reddit, she explained: "I was invited to my best friend Pam's wedding a few days ago. I helped prepare everything - the location, food, decorations, all that.
"However, a few hours before the wedding, we (the bridesmaids) were with her for preparation, and after some chatting, she pulled me aside and asked me to not wear my sunglasses to her wedding.
"I have an eye condition called anisocoria (my left pupil is always extremely dilated, while the right one works normally) and suffer from photophobia in this eye, so therefore I always wear sunglasses.
"I wanted to know what she expected me to do about my condition and she said I could wear a pretty lace eye patch because that would fit better into the aesthetic of the wedding rather than my glasses or my eyes.
"I refused because 1. I would've had to go and buy one (I don't think I could've done it on time) and 2. I don't feel comfortable wearing something like that in front of everybody.
"We got into an argument and I ended up leaving. In retrospect, I feel like I was being childish about all that, but I wish she would have told me about her issue with my eye before. I don't know if I'm the a**hole here so I'll accept any judgement."
Commenters on the post were quick to reassure the woman that she wasn't wrong for leaving the wedding, as they said her friend should never have asked her to ditch her glasses.
One poster said: "This is for a medical condition that you can't help. It would be a different story if you just wore them for aesthetic purposes, and not a medical condition. Your friend is 100% in the wrong."
While another added: "Good grief. Why is it that weddings bring out the shallowness in people lately? It's a medical condition that you can't change."
And a third wrote: "Anyone asking you to deal with a physical condition in a way that makes you uncomfortable is not acting like a best friend but an absolute a**hole."
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