Finding out that your partner has been cheating you for years can be one of the most painful things you experience in life. It’s hard to know where to go from there. Especially if you have children.
Redditor u/Fit_District6065 went viral on the r/AITAH online community after opening up about how he waited out his prenuptial agreement before divorcing his wife, who had been cheating on him for years.
Scroll down for the full story and the insights various internet users had to share about the delicate situation. Bored Panda has reached out to the author via Reddit, and we’ll update the article as soon as we hear back from him.
Realizing that your partner has been unfaithful to you can upend your entire world
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One man went viral after revealing what he did after figuring out that his wife had been cheating on him for years
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If you do decide to sign a prenup, make sure that it’s fair and that you don’t feel forced into it
Whether or not you get a prenuptial agreement will depend on your particular situation. Though ‘ordinary’ couples can and do get prenups, in many people’s minds, they’re still most commonly associated with the rich, powerful, and famous.
In short, prenups are supposed to set expectations for the marriage and very clearly explain what happens to each other’s money and assets if they get divorced or if one of them dies. They can also have clauses that explain what happens if one or both partners cheat.
Broadly speaking, every contract is likely going to be uniquely tailored to the couple signing it. If you feel pressured to sign a contract, make sure that you read it in detail before you commit to it. If you’re in doubt about any part of it and want some clarification—ask for it.
If you have a lawyer, you may also want them to go through the entire document clause by clause to see if there are any potential red flags. The important thing to remember is that prenups have to be fair and signed voluntarily. If somebody is forcing you to sign something you think goes against your best interests, there might be some deeper problems afoot.
Being asked to sign a prenup doesn’t automatically mean that your partner doesn’t trust you, though. It’s often a practical way to acknowledge the uncomfortable reality that people can and do change over time. They may fall out of love. They might cheat. They might decide to amicably split because they’ve grown apart.
There are lots of different reasons why someone might cheat on their partner
Unfortunately, real life doesn’t always work out the same way fairytales and rom-com movies do. Happy and healthy relationships require lots of consistent hard work to keep them that way. Good communication, transparency, mutual respect and attraction, passion, playfulness—that’s the foundation.
There are no simple answers to why somebody cheats on their partner. A lot depends on every couple’s history, characters, and environments.
According to psychology professor Lucia F. O’Sullivan, Ph.D., from the University of New Brunswick, one main reason why people are unfaithful is because of sexual dissatisfaction. One or even both partners might want more sex or variety and look for other people who can provide them with what they want and need.
One way to avoid this is to have absolute transparency about one’s intimate needs. Though it may be very awkward to talk about what someone needs in the bedroom, open and honest communication is going to build a lot of mutual trust.
Equally as important is emotional (dis)satisfaction in relationships. Just like people can be sexually frustrated, they can also be emotionally dissatisfied. They might feel like they’re disillusioned with their partners and cannot connect with them any longer.
While some people cheat on their partners because they feel neglected, overlooked, or rejected, others do so because they’re angry with them and want to hurt them emotionally. Still, others may be generally satisfied with the relationship but are still unfaithful because they’re in situations where cheating is easy: they are simply presented with the opportunities to do so.
The author clarified some important details in the comments
Most people thought that the husband was right to do what he did. Here’s what they said
However, other internet users thought he handled the situation poorly. Here’s their perspective
A few readers thought that nobody was blameless here
