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The Guardian - US
The Guardian - US
Lifestyle
Alaina Demopoulos

Going boysober: the women who turned to celibacy in 2024

A composite image of Tiffany Haddish, Khloé Kardashian, Julia Fox, and screenshots of social media posts where women swear off dating
‘Whereas celibacy used to be associated with purity culture, promise rings and evangelical youth, this tool of the patriarchy has been reappropriated.’ Composite: Guardian Design

Some call it “boysober”. Others take inspiration from South Korea’s 4B movement. And many just get right to it: they’re celibate.

For Olivia Iverson, a 28-year-old Minneapolis woman, it’s a little more complicated. For the past two years, she hasn’t dated much. She’s not opposed to finding someone, but she’s sworn off the apps and prioritized her existing friendships. “I’m re-centering my values around basically everything other than dating men,” Iverson, who works in marketing, said.

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