When you’re pregnant, the last thing you want is to become the butt of someone else’s joke - especially when it’s your husband making the joke, at your expense.
That’s what happened to one poor mum-to-be at her child’s gender reveal.
First of all, the event was bigger than she expected which left her ‘nervous’ and ‘anxious’ because she hadn’t been forewarned.
But nothing would’ve been able to warn her for the vile comment which came next from her husband.
She wrote: “I married my husband 3 years ago. I'm currently pregnant with our first baby together. We found out it's a girl and my in-laws wanted to invite us for dinner for "gender reveal announcement and celebration".
“We got there, saw many relatives coming to congratulate us and celebrate. It was bigger than expected which made me nervous because I'm not a fan of being around many people.
"We sat at dinner table and I barely ate, I was feeling so much anxiety and was sort of upset my husband didn't warn me about how many people were coming, but I tried to stay calm and collected.
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“Anyways, after the announcement and in the middle of the celebration my husband wanted to give a toast. He opened a bottle and poured a drink and wished that our daughter would be "healthy, happy, but look nothing like me".
“Everyone at the table laughed. I sat there staring in shock while he kept laughing with them. I felt so much rage and my anxiety got out of hand.
“I got up, took my purse and made my way out. His mom followed me asking if I was okay, I told her I just wanted to go home. He came to the door asking what was wrong. That's when we started arguing.
“He said this was a "joke toast" and that my reaction was over the top, but the thing is ever since I got pregnant he kept hinting he doesn't want our daughter to look like me. He even once got up in the morning and the first thing he told me was how much he wished our daughter looks nothing like me.
“I went home and he called many times telling me to get my ‘insecurities' in check before I passed them on to our daughter. He urged me to get therapy and stop acting so dramatically like how I did in front of his family.
“I think leaving dinner wasn't the best solution but I just got overwhelmed.”
Redditors jumped to the defence of the mum-to-be, equally horrified at why he would’ve chosen to make that joke at all, let alone in public.
One wrote: “First; congratulations on your pregnancy, take care of yourself and your little girl. He's the one who needs therapy, his behaviour is not okay.”
Someone else decided to lay down the law for the mum-to-be. The kind and concerned poster wrote: “Your husband is being emotionally and psychologically abusive. He's telling you he hopes your daughter doesn't look like you.
“When he makes a public joke that causes you to react, perfectly appropriately by the way, he tells you you need counselling before your insecurities affect your daughter. Insecurities that he has exacerbated and inflamed, if not outright planted. That is gaslighting.
“Beyond that, please consider counselling, but for yourself not because your husband told you to get it. Stay safe!”
Another confirmed what everyone else was thinking: “Leaving dinner isn’t the only thing you should be leaving.”
