He controls himself before he tries to control anything else
Chanakya wrote in the Arthashastra that a man who cannot govern his own senses cannot govern a household, a business, or a relationship. Women read this faster than most men realise. Anger that flares at a slow waiter, impatience in a traffic jam, sulking when a plan changes, these are not small things. They are data. Self-mastery is the quality women test without announcing the test. The man who stays measured when the situation doesn't deserve it signals something rare: that his stability is internal, not dependent on conditions going his way.
