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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Mary Fogarty

A moment that changed me: I climbed a tower aged nine, alone – and discovered how I wanted to live

A woman wearing sunglasses, a black top with a poppy pattern and a red scarf sits at a table with a coffee in the sun
Embracing freedom … Mary Fogarty in Marrakech in 2025. Photographs: courtesy of Mary Fogarty Photograph: Courtesy of Mary Fogarty

I grew up in Kenya and was nine when we went camping by the beach in Mombasa, with two other families. The constant games and laughter were new to me, as we were a quiet, rather insular family. I went bodyboarding, watched crabs emerge from holes in the sand, climbed all over rusty cannons in the old fort and bought colourful strips of kanga fabric in the market to make sarongs.

One day, my father asked some fishers to take us to the reef in their canoes. It was a good mile offshore: I wanted to stay behind with Mum, but Dad fixed me with a look and said: “You’ve got no sense of adventure, have you?” Then I knew I had to go, clambering shakily into the wobbly wooden construction, clinging on to the sides for dear life.

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