Cheating is never okay in a relationship, even if it’s all just emotional. Some people who engage in infidelity like this also get defensive when they’re confronted about it, no matter how much their actions have hurt the other person.
This is what a controlling man did when his young daughter found his secret messages to other women. She informed her mother about it, which led to her dad going ballistic. He ended up playing the victim despite having orchestrated the entire situation.
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