A newlywed has revealed how her husband told her in bed he could "could see himself cheating in the distant future" - and people think it's because he's already done it. The woman and her husband had only been married a short time when he made the confession, and initially his new wife thought he was joking.
But the bewildered woman was shocked when her hubby further "when he gets tempted" and cheats, it would just make him miss her more. She took to Reddit to ask for advice, and said it had "ruined the mood".
Many readers were convinced it was a sign he had already cheated. In the post, she said: "Last night we were in bed having some conversations about 'the future' and the topic of 'cheating' came up (he brought it up).
"He said that he 'could see himself cheating in the distant future'. I gasped at this though really thought he was just teasing/messing with me. But he told me to give him time to explain and said that he doesn't see cheating as something that's 'that bad' because if and WHEN he gets TEMPTED and decides to step out on our marriage and cheats... he'd just 'miss and want me more'.
"He'd really be 'showing himself' that no other woman can be as good as I am for him. That he'd come to a conclusion that he only wants a stable and serious relationship with me regardless of who he meets/gets attracted to in the years to come....
"In other words he wants to 'compare other women' to me to be able to come to a conclusion that I'm the one for him. OH GOD. I wish he was just joking cause he has a dark sense of humour but looking into his eyes at that moment really sent chills down my spine not gonna lie.
"It wasn't pretty and I felt uneasy. This...interesting view on cheating he has is just not something I'd expected nor seen coming. I don't know what to feel about this.
"It ruined the mood for us and he started calling me unreasonable to be that upset when he's done nothing 'yet' but was just being honest and giving his opinion on the subject."
But users on Reddit responded with alarm - because they thought the situation was even more of a red flag than it appeared. One user commented: "He wants to cheat and he wants you to be okay with it regardless of how you actually feel.
"Better have a very serious and long conversation about this with him so they know completely you don't want or like it. But from how he said it and his "explanation" he's probably going to do it whether or not [you like it]."
The OP replied to the comment saying: "I got this impression when he started saying those things as well. Don't know what to even say!"
But many saw it as a sign he had already done the dirty - and was trying to soften the blow for when he finally admitted it. One user said: "Almost sounds like a confession" to which another replied "I'd put money down that it is...".
Another said: "To me it sounds like he’s trying to rationalize having already cheated. My guess is in a year or so he’ll come clean and share that he stepped out before the wedding and then insert the justification he told OP.
"Something like how it made him realize OP was the only one for him, blah blah blah. And then he’ll probably do it again."
One user worryingly predicted: "His mistress is threatening to expose him and he is just setting things up to soften the blow. Good luck with that!" while another replied "That's where my mind went."
Another said: "It’s a pre-confession. One I wouldn’t be sticking around to redeem when the time comes."
Some even advised the bride gets out while she can, to avoid ending up heartbroken further down the line. One said: "YIKES. But you're still in the annulment zone."
Another agreed: "I second this, GET THE ANNULMENT BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE."
A third warned: "Please listen to these people - most abusive/cheating/lying men don’t show their true colours until they feel like they have you trapped. Your husband never said this before because he knew it might scare you off. Believe him when he tells you who he is.
"He will cheat, I guarantee it. You married a lie, get an annulment NOW."
