Wellness culture has been beneficial in many ways, don’t get me wrong. The rise of this mindset has inspired a lot of people to take charge of their health in ways they wouldn’t have otherwise. But the push to always be “on” the wellness train can be overwhelming. The relentless positivity and polished perfection online can drain the life out of you at times, it seems. Beneath the green smoothies and gratitude journals, there’s a growing sense that something’s missing: honesty, nuance, and room for real struggle. That said, here are eight reasons why men are pushing back against the overly optimistic wellness culture now.
1. They’re Tired of Being Told to “Just Be Grateful”
Gratitude is powerful, but it’s not a cure-all. Men are increasingly frustrated with being told to “just be grateful” when they’re dealing with real stress, burnout, or emotional pain. This kind of advice can feel dismissive, minimizing the complexity of what they’re going through. Instead of forcing a smile, many are choosing to sit with discomfort and process it honestly. They’re learning that true wellness isn’t about pretending everything’s fine.
2. The Hustle-Wellness Paradox Is Wearing Thin
Wellness culture often preaches balance, but it’s riddled with contradictions. Men are told to meditate, journal, cold plunge, lift heavy, eat clean, sleep eight hours, and crush their goals, all before 7 a.m. It’s no wonder many feel like they’re failing at self-care. The pressure to optimize every moment has turned wellness into another performance metric. Now, men are pushing back by simplifying routines and focusing on what actually feels good, not what looks good on social media.
3. They’re Questioning the “High Vibe Only” Mentality
The “high vibe only” mantra has become a staple of wellness spaces, but it’s starting to feel emotionally dishonest. Men are realizing that real growth often comes from sitting with low moments, not avoiding them. By rejecting the idea that negative emotions are “bad,” they’re making space for a fuller emotional range. This shift is helping men build deeper emotional resilience, not just surface-level positivity. It’s okay to not be okay, and that’s a message more men are embracing.
4. Wellness Feels Increasingly Commercialized
What started as a movement for better health has turned into a billion-dollar industry. From overpriced supplements to $200 yoga mats, wellness culture often feels more like a shopping spree than a healing journey. Men are growing skeptical of influencers who push products under the guise of self-care. They’re beginning to ask: Is this actually helping me, or just helping someone else’s bottom line? The new masculine wellness mindset is about substance over aesthetics.
5. They’re Reclaiming Rest Without Guilt
In a culture that glorifies productivity, rest is often framed as laziness. But men are starting to reclaim rest as a vital part of wellness… not a reward, but a requirement. Whether it’s taking naps, setting boundaries around work, or simply doing nothing, rest is being reframed as strength. This shift is helping men recover from burnout and reconnect with themselves. Wellness isn’t just about doing more; it’s about knowing when to pause.
6. They’re Seeking Real Talk, Not Platitudes
Men are craving honest conversations about mental health, aging, relationships, and identity. The overly polished, one-size-fits-all advice of wellness influencers no longer resonates. Instead, they’re turning to podcasts, peer groups, and therapists who speak with nuance and vulnerability. They want to hear about the messy middle, not just the highlight reel. Real talk is becoming the new self-care.
7. They’re Redefining What “Healthy” Looks Like
For too long, wellness culture has equated health with aesthetics (abs, macros, and morning routines). But men are starting to see health as more than a look; it’s a feeling, a mindset, a way of living. They’re prioritizing sustainable habits over extreme regimens. Mental clarity, emotional balance, and functional strength are taking precedence over shredded physiques. This broader definition of health is more inclusive, more realistic, and more empowering.
8. They’re Choosing Community Over Competition
Wellness culture often pits people against each other… who can run faster, lift more, or eat cleaner. But men are realizing that true well-being thrives in connection, not comparison. They’re forming accountability groups, joining community fitness classes, and supporting each other’s growth without judgment. This shift from competition to camaraderie is helping men feel less isolated and more supported. Wellness, they’re learning, is a team sport.
Wellness Without the Pressure: A New Masculine Approach
Men aren’t rejecting wellness. They’re reclaiming it. They’re stripping away the pressure, the perfectionism, and the performative positivity to make room for something more grounded. This new approach to wellness is rooted in honesty, sustainability, and self-respect. It’s not about chasing an ideal; it’s about building a life that actually feels good to live. And that’s a version of wellness worth showing up for.
What parts of wellness culture have you embraced, and which ones have you outgrown? Let’s talk about it in the comments.
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