A couple of decades ago, Aidan Key went on a talk show with his identical twin sister, Brenda. The interview — which was about Aidan’s transition and Brenda’s parallel life as a woman — went fine, he tells me. “Then they opened it up to the audience for questions,” he remembers with a laugh, “and somebody raised their hand and said: ‘So, which is better?’”
The question didn’t faze him exactly, but did become aware of the atmosphere in the room shifting, almost like there were suddenly “two different cheering sections”. Suddenly, everyone was leaning forward, desperate for an answer to the question: girl or boy? Man or woman? When all is said and done, who has the easier ride? The answer to that question, he says, is actually pretty complicated.
