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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
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Denise Mills

We encouraged my aunt with Alzheimer’s to move into aged care. But what good is a safe life if it’s not the life you wish to live?

Woman holding elderly woman's hand in her hands
‘How can I help my aunt when I have so little control over her routines and what the aged care facility prioritises?’ Photograph: imageBROKER/Alamy

Lately I’ve been having dreams where I’m desperately trying to save my aunt, my late mother’s twin with no children of her own, from the clutches of Alzheimer’s disease. These dreams are not heroic. They involve me, an accountant, hunched over my computer trying to reconcile the life she’s living in an aged care facility to the life she should be living as a vibrant 68-year-old.

But the maths isn’t working: where do I put the debits and credits?

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