Dear Vix,
My wife and I haven’t had sex for more than a year – and I’m going out of my mind. It’s making me sad, stressed, sleepless – even physically unwell. I’ve tried tips I’ve read about in other places, like shared calendars for scheduling sex, but it doesn’t seem to work. I’ve tried being direct, and asking for sex, but she fobs me off or says it’s not a good time. I’ve suggested we book a babysitter so we can go out; and have tried to get her in the mood by buying her skimpy lingerie on special occasions. But nothing helps. She just seems distant and moody and turns away, or bats me off like I’m irritating her; or says all she wants is an early night or is always too busy with the kids (which just feels like an excuse). I feel like I’m pestering her and hoping she ‘gives in’.
