Voices: I have a huge crush on a colleague and it’s making me miserable

Dear Vix,

I’m besotted with a woman at work and it’s tearing me apart. She’s smart, sexy, funny, absolutely gorgeous – and way, way out of my league (as well as being a few years older than me). I have to build myself up in the lifts before getting out on our floor, just in case she’s already there or I see her and start blushing like an absolute idiot. I have to take deep, calm breaths whenever I walk to make myself a coffee, so that I don’t fall apart if she happens to be in the kitchen at the same time as me. I can’t even talk to her. I just go mute and stupid and forget my own name. Her effect on me is obliterating.