A mum has been left gutted after missing a 'milestone' with her baby.
Having a new baby is full of ups and downs but the milestones of seeing them experience their 'firsts' is exciting to watch as they discover the world.
While we might initially think things like walking, crawling and laughing are all new baby milestones, one mum revealed that she considered her baby trying a new food is up there with the important parts of life - and sadly, the moment was stolen from her.
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She took to popular forum Mumsnet to vent after her mother-in-law gave her baby ice cream.
"Please let me preface this post by acknowledging that my in laws look after our baby once a week and I’m hugely grateful to them for this. They were desperate to be grandparents (this is their first grandchild) so the arrangement suits us both as they get time with the baby and I get time to catch up on laundry, cleaning etc (I am still on maternity leave)."
"Today my MIL [mother-in-law] gave our baby her first taste of ice cream DD [dear daughter] is nine months. I’m not so bothered about the sweet aspect (although we’re not giving her sweets, juice etc as yet) but I feel upset that we didn’t get to give her her first ice cream.
"I feel like this is a cute milestone moment for a baby and instead of being there I had my MIL describing to me how my daughter reacted to the taste. Previously she has also tried BLW [baby led weaning] my baby one day after we started weaning her which I was livid about, so we’ve already spoken to her and asked her not to give her new foods without checking in first.
"I don’t mind MIL giving “normal” foods but I do feel like something like baby’s first ice cream is a bit special and I feel annoyed and upset that she took this moment away unnecessarily. I don’t think I’m going to say anything about it as I don’t want to appear ungrateful so I guess I’m just venting, feel free to tell me YABU [You are being unreasonable]!!"
Ice cream might not be the first thing that comes to mind when thinking about milestones and many agreed it wasn't something to be overly bothered by.
"Whoever thought ice cream would be a special milestone?" One commented.
A second said: "It's only ice cream not one of the firsts i would be hugely bothered by."
"You’re being unreasonable. It sounds like you’re after a ‘insta’ of the event rather than the actual event. Just give them some ice cream later and take a photo. At that age they have no idea, love something one minute, hate it the next.
"Why would ice cream be any different that giving them an avocado as an example? Don’t make ‘sweet treats’ such an event, or any food for that matter! Sounds like you have a lovely relationship with your in-laws, just say thanks and carry on!" A third replied.
One Mumsnet user suggested she tried another new food: "If she's spending one whole day every week with her grandparents then there are going to be more things like this. It's inevitable. I'd try and relax about it all. You can't control everything that they do with her.
Maybe try a different "nice" food with baby today? So you get that special feeling of seeing her try something for the first time."
One slammed the mum and said accused her of micromanaging: "YABU to you it might be a special thing but to others not do much. Let the grandparents have some firsts too. Stop micromanaging everything to do with your baby. If they are good enough to look after them then they will do somethings that you might not have done next.
"I would suggest that you have the first steps conversion with them though. Are you going to be gutted if your baby walks at their house first? If there’s any other ‘firsts’ list you have then let them know or they will continue breaking rules that they didn’t know existed!"
After collecting over 400 comments, the original poster hit back: "For those who’ve given polite and reasonable responses, thank you so much! As I said initially I’m not going to raise it so no need for anyone to be concerned in that front! For the rest of you I hope you are nicer in person than you are on here."
Do you think first types of food is a milestone? Let us know in the comments.
