A top lawyer says Lady Susan Hussey also question him about his heritage at the same event where she asked a black charity boss if she came from Africa.
Nazir Afzal, former chief crown prosecutor for the North West, was at the Buckingham Palace this week with Ngozi Fulani when she was questioned about her ethnicity by Lady Hussey.
Ngozi, who runs a black women's domestic abuse charity in London, took to Twitter to share how the late Queen's friend touched her hair and asked her where "in Africa she comes from".