For many brides, picking out a wedding dress is a dream come true. Not only is it important to choose one that will make you feel confident and beautiful on the big day, it’s also wise to keep in mind that you’ll be looking back on photos from the wedding for years to come. In a way, that dress will stay with you for the rest of your life!
But when one woman decided that the dress her fiancé’s daughter chose to wear to their wedding was inappropriate, the teen decided that neither of them could have their dream dress. Below, you’ll find a story that a concerned parent recently shared on the “Am I the [Jerk]?” subreddit wondering if they should call off their wedding altogether due to this dress drama.
This parent was excited to help their daughter find a dress to wear to their upcoming wedding
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But their relationship quickly started crumbling after their fiancée decided that the dress wasn’t appropriate
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1,300 new stepfamilies form every day in the United States
Every wedding has complications. No matter how old you are or how supportive your family is, you’ll be unable to keep everyone happy. But when you’re getting a new spouse and stepchildren on the same day, it’s important to try to be on good terms with your partner’s kids. And thankfully, nowadays, anyone who enters into a blended family is far from the first person to do so.
According to the Pew Research Center, 16% of kids in the United States live in blended families today. And the U.S. Census Bureau reports that 1,300 new stepfamilies form every single day. 50% of kids under the age of 13 also live with one of their parents and a stepparent or their parent’s current partner. Over half of American families are remarried or re-coupled, and three quarters of divorcees end up tying the knot again at some point.
But just because it’s common to be in a blended family doesn’t mean that it’s always easy. Navigating a new relationship can be challenging enough, but adding children and the responsibilities of parenting into the mix can make it even harder. Kids may be resistant to change and uncomfortable with the idea of having a stepparent, which can certainly take a toll on their parent’s romantic relationship.
It’s common for stepparents to have rocky relationships with their stepchildren in the beginning
When it comes to entering into a new relationship as a mom or dad, Parents.com notes that it’s important to know a few things. First, they urge parents not to be afraid to prioritize their children. It’s a red flag if your partner always wants to be put before the kiddos. And as much as you’ll want your little ones to bond with your partner, you cannot force them to have a close relationship.
It’s natural for both of them to take time to open up to one another. Either might become jealous, and your kid might be confused about why you would want to bring a new person into their life in the first place. Just be patient, communicate openly with both parties, and give it time. However, if you notice your partner being dismissive of your child or trying to be pushy with a relationship, that might be a sign that they’re not the one for you and your family.
Parents.com also recommends listening to your gut. Keep a close eye on interactions between your children and your partner, and don’t brush anything off. If you’re not a fan of their parenting style or the way they talk about your kids, you might realize that it’s not a good fit. And it’s much better to figure that out before getting married and integrating them fully into your family.
Parenting teens is always a challenge, but it can be even harder for stepparents
Teens are notoriously difficult to parent, period. With their growing sense of independence, hormones raging from puberty and desire to defy authority, their behavior can often be amplified when stepparents enter the picture. And according to Kristen at StepMomming, stepparenting teens can be compared to “surviving a minefield.”
To navigate this delicate situation, Kristen recommends that spouses be on the same page as their partner. Enforce the same rules and consequences, and try to be there for your stepchild in the same ways that their parents would be (if they’ll let you, of course). It’s also important to be realistic and prepare yourself for some uncomfortable moments.
Whether the teen hurls cruel words at you or ignores you completely, try not to take it personally. Another important tip that the woman in this story certainly could have benefitted from is: remain calm. At the end of the day, you’re an adult, and they’re not. Immature behavior can be excused in teens, to a certain extent. But as the stepparent, you should know better.
We would love to hear your thoughts on this situation in the comments below, pandas. Would you have called off this wedding too? Then, if you’d like to check out another story from Bored Panda featuring stepparent drama, we recommend reading this article next!
Readers had plenty to say about the story, so the parent provided a bit more information on the situation
Many called out the parent for ever thinking this wedding was a good idea in the first place
However, some thought that the author hadn’t done anything wrong
And others believed that all parties had acted immaturely
