A married couple who encourage each other to sleep with others has visited more than 20 countries for their 'sexploits'.
Cate Wander, 37, and her husband, Darren, 47, a salesman, met 15 years ago in Sydney, Australia and initially started dating as a monogamous couple.
Five years into the relationship, the pair decided to open up about their different desires, ranging from career aspirations to sexual fantasies.
They soon decided to identify as 'ethically non-monogamous' - which means they communicate before having sex with others outside their marriage.
The adventurous couple decided to become swingers and have not looked back since.
Cate and Darren enjoyed the "openness" of the lifestyle so much, they "opened up their marriage".
They have since travelled the world for their romps with other men and women - visiting places such as Thailand, Japan, France, Singapore, Malaysia, the US and the UK.
The pair hopes to "break the stigma" surrounding non-monogamy and swinging.
Cate, a podcaster from Queensland, Australia, said: "The first time I swung I was terrified.
“Theirs is a really negative stigma surrounding the lifestyle. I thought a hairy-chested dude wearing a gold chain with a beer belly was going to come out.
“It was nothing like that at all. There are people from all walks of life, it’s like any other bar except there are playrooms.
“You drink, chat to different people and dance."
Cate left her high-flying corporate career as a global director of operations in 2019 and openly came out as a swinger after hiding it from the world due to 'a morality clause in her work contract'.
Darrell works in sales but said his company has been accepting of his alternative lifestyle.
The couple had their first swinging experience in a club in Sydney, Australia, and were initially apprehensive.
They didn’t have any sexual encounters but acted as voyeurs - watching others without getting involved - dipping their toes in the possibilities of non-monogamy.
Since then, they have relocated to the Netherlands and have had sex with other people all over the world - and regularly visit nudist resorts for their romps.
Darrell added: "When we first swung I was scared and excited, but the feeling of excitement overruled.
"We went into it with the wrong idea and had rigid rules we couldn't break.
"We soon realised this wasn't the way to go as we can't predict how we might feel in one given moment and choose to communicate what we want in each moment instead.
"We have guidelines for example, we won't take one for the team. If one of us isn't interested, we both aren't interested.
"We come first and each have the veto power to leave a situation or a couple if one of us doesn't wish to continue."
Cate and Darrell loved swinging so much, they quickly established themselves on the Sydney swinging scene.
They regularly went to their favourite club in Sydney - Our Secret Spot - and enjoyed their newfound sexual liberation.
According to Cate, at first she had to overcome feelings of shame and confusion as she felt bad for being sexual with others in front of her husband but she quickly realised he loved it.
They have lived just outside Amsterdam, Netherlands, since March and say they love the "openness and fluidity of Dutch culture".
Cate said: “In the Netherlands people don’t bat an eyelid, everyone is very open here. Sexuality and nudity isn’t a big deal."
She told how non-monogamy and swinging is "viewed differently depending on where you are in the world".
For example, in the south of France there is a naked city called Cap D’agde where 40,000 nudists live.
In Malaysia and Thailand, swinging is illegal so Cate says the scene is "hidden underground".
While in Japanese swing clubs, she claims: "You can’t get in unless you speak fluent Japanese".
The couple - who regularly host swinging events in US hotels - said swingers clubs are prevalent in all the major cities but are still highly stigmatised. In the UK there are 40 swinging clubs.
Sex-positive advocate Cate describes the double-standard in society and said she believes ‘non-ethical’ monogamy - cheating - isn’t frowned upon as much as consensual non-monogamy.
“More often than not, people on normal dating apps and who cheat on their partners non-consensually will have more sex than those who are part of the swinging lifestyle - yet are not stigmatised in the same way,” she added.
The couple’s favourite sexual activities are 'puppy piles' - a large pile of people of mixed sexes, cuddling and or heavy petting each other, usually with clothes on, but sometimes without.
They also love encounters with other couples. Sometimes Darrell likes to watch Cate receive pleasure from other men and sets up dates for her to go on with other guys.
Cate and Darrell often go on swinging resort holidays in Mexico and Jamaica - where up to 500 people stay in luxury all-inclusive hotels to get to know each other.
“My favourite thing about swinging is meeting new people from all walks of life," Cate said.
“We tend to be more open and less surface level, everyone is nude and disarmed without any judgments.
“I find with other women I can be honest and deep instead of competitive and catty as we are not sizing each other up to see where each of us sit in the hierarchy. It really is a beautiful thing.”
Cate discovered she was bisexual after a few years of swinging as the lifestyle liberated her to explore her sexuality.
The Wanderlust Swingers podcaster often receives hateful comments on her social media targeting her appearance, but ignores them as much as possible.
Three years ago, she came out publicly by posting a photo on social media
“I liberated myself and I quit my job, now I run sex events around the world and do consultations for businesses who work in the sex positive space," she said.
