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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
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Sarah Ayoub

Thanks for Having Me by Emma Darragh review – why would a mother leave her daughter?

Composite of headshot of woman with dark brown hair blowing in the wind, standing in front of the sea and book cover with title Thanks for Having Me written in pink font above a broken heart-shaped lollypop
Emma Darragh has a flair for tiny mundane details in novel Thanks for Having Me. Composite: Sarah Wilson/Allen & Unwin

In Emma Darragh’s debut novel, we meet three generations of women grappling with the effects of motherly abandonment. Two of these women leave their husbands and their children, though we never entirely understand why. Maryanne, worn down from raising two kids, keeping house and being the relied-upon sibling of her own family, walks out after a fight with her daughter Vivian, whose resentment is palpable. “She waited until we were at school and she snuck away without saying goodbye,” Vivian tells her sister Susan. “[She’s] meant to be an adult.”

But years later, after a string of casual jobs and sexual partners, Vivian finds herself with a demanding baby and a distant and unsupportive spouse. Eventually, she too walks out on her daughter, Evie, who finds this abandonment deeply upsetting.

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