There are so many wonderful parts about being a dog owner — but it's not always easy. While it's lovely getting to curl up on the couch with your pup and have a cuddle or get out in nature together, there are also a lot of challenges that we don't often talk about.
Perhaps your dog pulls on the leash when you're out for a walk or won't come back to you when you call them. Or maybe they growl when you try to take one of the best dog toys off them. It could be that they bark whenever the doorbell goes or counter-surf the minute your back is turned.
Whatever issue you're dealing with right now, know that you're not alone. Being a pet parent can be super rewarding, but it can also be really hard. When the going gets tough, these reminders from expert trainer and behaviorist Renee Rhoades are well worth keeping mind...
1. The way you talk about yourself matters: "Telling yourself 'I'm not good enough' or 'I'm not doing enough' can diminish all the wonderful things you do for your dog," says Rhoades. "Your thoughts shape your reality. Changing your mindset to focus on your positive contributions to your dog's well-being can boost your confidence in your caregiving efforts."
2. You do not need to follow the crowd: "The judgement and opinions of friends, family, or even strangers on the internet can start to heavily sway the choices we make with our dogs. Listen to your intuition. You do not need to impress or prove anything to anyone. It is okay to live a life with your dog that looks and feels differently to others," Rhoades explains.
3. Allow your feelings to be felt: "Thinking 'this is not the dog I thought I was getting' or 'I wish life could be different' does not dictate who you are or your relationship with your dog. You can love your dog and still be disappointed, sad or frustrated with their behavior. Don't bottle up your emotions; let yourself feel them," advises Rhoades.
4. Anxiety is inevitable: "It's normal to feel concerned about every facet of your dog's wellbeing and your role as their caregiver. Anxiety plays a healthy role in safeguarding us and steering us away from mistakes," Rhoades explains. "However, becoming overly stressed about decisions can cloud your judgment. You are doing your best."
5. There is still a lot of joy to be felt: "One of the main reasons we wish to share our lives with dogs is the immense delight they bring. While being a dog owner will have its challenges, it is undeniably one of the most rewarding experiences. Dogs give so much to us, don't forget to stop and let joy take over," says Rhoades.
Whether you're struggling with the puppy blues as your new friend learns the ropes in their first year of life or you've been a dog owner for years and find some days stressful and overwhelming, know that what you're feeling is normal and common.
Remember to be gentle and kind with yourself, give yourself permission to feel how you feel, and soak up those moments of joy with your pup when they're there.
