We are taught that marriage is 50/50, but let’s be honest: in many households, the math is skewed. You might feel that if you just do a little more—organize one more appointment, anticipate one more need, keep the peace one more time—things will stabilize. But there is a terrifying paradox in relationships: sometimes, the more you give, the less he does.
There is a difference between being a supportive partner and being an emotional shock absorber. When you are over-functioning, you aren’t saving the marriage; you are often masking the fact that he has already emotionally left the building. If you recognize yourself in these signs, it is time to stop giving and start observing.
