A mum has been left heartbroken after her sister-in-law shamed her for giving her daughter an "embarrassing" name. She explained how she picked out an "old-timey plant name" similar to Astor and Saffron after spending months mulling over her options.
But it seems not everybody saw the beauty in it, with her sister-in-law saying it's "cursed, terrible and embarrassing" for the child. Taking to Reddit, she said: "My sister-in-law manages an online baby discussion board. I just had my baby three months ago and she did not approve of the name.
"She posted about my baby's name and held it up for ridicule, saying I was 'cursing' my daughter with a 'terrible and embarrassing name'.
"I only [found out] because my husband mentioned her forum to me so I looked at it, and everyone commenting was being nasty about my name choice.
"I was hurt, especially because my in-laws are all Catholic and I picked this name because it's also a Saint name so I wanted to be respectful."
After seeing the post, the 36-year-old mum sent her sister-in-law an "angry email" saying she had no right to ridicule her child's name all over the internet.
" I also called her a b****, which I know is wrong. I'm just sad and it's hard enough breastfeeding and dealing with sleepless nights, but my husband thinks I overreacted and I think I may have," she added.
Wanting to know whether she went too far, she asked Reddit users for their thoughts on her situation.
One user said: "She came for you - and your baby - and you got triggered. That's pretty understandable to me.
"If this is your sister-in-law due to your husband, he should apologise to you for 'cursing' you with a 'terrible and embarrassing' sister-in-law."
Another user added: "Your sister-in-law is an a*** for making fun of your babies name behind your back. If she has an issue with it, she should've told you face to face, which she didn't have the guts to do.
"You're an a*** for calling her a b****, or calling any woman a b****. There's a plethora of other curse words that could've been used that aren't misogynistic."
A third user said: "When you manage a discussion board, there are ways of starting a productive, mind-opening conversation about a topic like old-fashioned names. People feel free to offer differing opinions in a civil atmosphere.
"There are also ways of starting a toxic pile-on of snide and cruel opinions with yourself as the centre of righteous judgement. Who would dare to disagree?
"For your sister-in-law to select the latter at the expense of her own family indeed makes her a b**** and a bad moderator."
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