It’s no secret that the hellscape that is the dating world can be hard to navigate. Recently, a dating coach has sparked a fierce discussion on social media after she shared an incident where a man was unmatched for not paying for transport.
Buckle up for this one, because it’s a bloody doozy.
People have a lot of strong opinions regarding who should pay for a date, it’s now come to our attention that we should also be considering who will be shelling out the dosh for transport.
The ‘yuge debate kicked off on Erika Ettin’s dating coach page, @alittlenudge, after she shared a bunch of screenshots of her “good guy friend” who got unmatched after he didn’t pay for his date’s Uber.
To give you a quick rundown on how the unmatching happened, Erika’s good guy friend turned to her when he matched with a woman from Jersey City, US.
In the Hinge receipts, the man claimed that he was willing to meet her in Jersey City. But after sussing out their options, the pair agreed on meeting in Manhattan (fancy) as they both claimed to not know any first date spots in Jersey City.
However, the conversation took a weird turn when the woman asked: “How am I gonna get there?”
In response, the guy said a joke, to which the dating coach said, “She’s not going to get that joke.”
(HIGHKEY same.)
Following the joke, the bloke revealed that it’d been an hour and she hadn’t responded to the joke.
“T-minus one hour and she hasn’t responded but also hasn’t blocked me,” he wrote to Erika.
“I’m showing up! It’s also less than a quarter of a mile from my apartment. I want SO BAD for this to be interesting.”
In the following screenshot, the bloke messaged the woman on Hinge revealing that he nabbed them a seat to which she responded, “… I’m not coming.”
The man then replied: “It was a little strange that you expected me to call you an Uber. I did offer to come to NJ if you didn’t want to make the trek. Best of luck. Enjoy your evening.”
In response, the woman chewed him out, stating that she was travelling “almost an hour” to meet the man for a date and that the “least [he] could do is cover [her] transport”.
“It’s not a strange concept to a gentleman. Best of luck to you too,” the woman shared before the conversation ended with the man confirming that he’d been unmatched.
Should men be paying for transport for a date?
In the caption to the wild post, the dating coach described the woman’s expectation as “unreasonable and dripped of entitlement” and stated that the woman should’ve been upfront about what she wanted in the chat.
“Instead of setting people up for failure, let’s set them up for success,” she wrote.
A majority of the comment section sided with the man, sharing the good old “he dodged a bullet” statement and describing the woman as entitled.
“Super tacky on her part on both counts: 1) expecting him to cover her Uber after he offered to come to her area, then 2) not clarifying that she’s bailing before the date,” one person wrote.
“Dodged a huge bullet there. It’s pulling teeth to have a conversation with most guys, he offered to come to her and he was funny/engaging/followed through. She lost a potentially good one!” another commented.
“He seems super sweet. She seems super entitled,” wrote a third.
However, some folks also voiced that the man should’ve been upfront about the whole Uber situation rather than cracking a joke and then assuming she would show up to the date.
“Yeah, he fumbled with that ‘joke’ about calling her an Uber. Should have been upfront then and there, ‘I didn’t realise you expected me to provide transportation. Would it be easier to meet closer to you after all?'” one person commented.
“Wait why are women fawning over this dude? Instead of making that painfully unfunny joke, he should’ve used the chance to set a boundary (‘I’m not paying for an Uber, happy to cancel if that’s your dealbreaker’). He wasted his own time,” another wrote.
Look, as a certified passenger princess who’s started digging around the trenches (Sydney’s dating pool), I am more than willing to pay for myself when it comes to transport.
As for dinner and drinks? Baby girl… That’s a whole different story.
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