When a bride picks her bridesmaids, she normally picks what sort of dress they will be wearing at the wedding – particularly if she's paying for them.
But one bridesmaid decided to go rogue because she didn't like the colour the bride had picked for them to wear, calling it "ugly" and "gross".
Taking to Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum, the bride explained that her friend had turned up to the wearing the wrong dress – and she had eventually kicked her out of the wedding.
The 23-year-old unnamed woman said: "My wedding was back on Saturday December 31 and I'm still getting backlash from this, so I want to know if this was an a**hole move."
She went on to explain that she had a winter-themed wedding, and that their colour scheme was forest green and gold. The bridesmaids dresses were forest green, while her maid of honour's was black.
The bride explained: "I have this friend, we'll call her Kat, that asked to be one of my bridesmaids. When we went dress shopping and I told them the colour theme I was going for, Kat immediately expressed that she thought forest green was a bad choice.
"She said she thinks it's not a flattering colour, and thought I should choose something different and more 'girly'. I said no because my wedding was winter themed and I thought the colour would go perfect with the theme."
At the wedding "Kat" showed up 30 minutes late, holding a bag with a dress inside, and said it was "for later on at the reception if she got uncomfortable and wanted to change after the pictures".
However, 30 minutes before the ceremony "Kat" appeared wearing a black dress. She continued: "I confronted Kat and asked her what was going on. She said she hates her bridesmaid dress, as the colour is ugly and makes her look gross so she's wearing black. I told her please go back and change. She refused and started walking away from me.
"I said I'm going to ask her one more time, and if she doesn't oblige I'm calling security and kicking her out."
So when "Kat" started "yelling" at her, she got her escorted out by security. Her friend called her "horrible" and "inconsiderate", and has since been texting her asking for the money back for the black dress.
She added: "Some of my other bridesmaids have been giving me shit saying that it was a little harsh kicking her out and embarrassing her like that. And that maybe I should give her the money back. [Am I the a**hole] for kicking her out?".
Most people agreed that the bride was totally within her rights to have her removed from the wedding and not pay her back, especially considering she paid for the original dresses.
One person said: "She embarrassed herself. She agreed to wear the dress you picked out, and then deceitfully planned to change at the last moment in the hope that you'd just let her get away with it."
Another added: "Agreed. It's pretty ballsy to pull the c**p she pulled and then want you to pay for the dress. Find new friends. It doesn't sound like the other bridesmaids are worth your time either."
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