Being a people-pleaser sounds like a pretty lovely attribute. Going out of your way to make other people happy, avoid inconveniences and stay away from conflict? Put “Glinda The Good Witch” in your dating app bio and give yourself a pat on the back, right?
Not so much. When you’re a regular human with buckets of feelings and empathy and a need to be loved, it’s hard not to base your actions around whether they will make other people happy (read: make other people like you). When you’re worried about how others think and feel, it’s natural to want to make them happy. This is all fine unless it comes at a cost to your own happiness.
