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The Guardian - AU
The Guardian - AU
Entertainment
Jenny Valentish

‘People hit their primes at different times of life’: the pair of late bloomers trying to rewrite the script for ageing

David Carlin and Peta Murray seated in front of bookshelves filled with books
‘What do we want to do … just hang out and wait for the end?’ David Carlin and Peta Murray consider the question of how to live meaningfully into the elder years in their book, How to Dress for Old Age. Photograph: Eugene Hyland/The Guardian

It was the perfect plan. Writers Peta Murray and David Carlin would introduce their elderly parents, who lived at the same aged care centre, so that they, too, could become firm friends. Murray’s father, Frank, and Carlin’s mother, Joan, both loved reading. Maybe Frank would want to share Joan’s copy of the Guardian Weekly? They could enjoy a game of bridge, Scrabble or bocce. Was it too late for romance?

This was a fantasy, but fantasies are what aged care marketing materials are made of, aimed squarely at easing the guilt of families. However, upon introductions, Frank and Joan ignored each other. Frank retired to his room.

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