Paloma Faith’s swipe at dating apps is justified – but we won’t give them up

‘As I lay in bed with Yanis the cat, I recognised the transactional doom loop that online dating held me in for a decade.’ Photograph: Getty

I concur wholeheartedly with Paloma Faith’s article on the horrors of online dating, although her experiences seem to be particularly grotesque (As a single mum, my free time is sacred – it fills me with rage to waste it on bad dates, 31 August). If it is any consolation, the landscape is identical as a man.

I have been using dating apps for a long time. If you can survive the cliches (kitchen disco, anyone?) you must navigate the lexicon of terms that people use. I too have been puzzled by the “ethically non-monogamous” – I’m glad I’m not alone. It seems people have little time or inclination to cultivate a real relationship after meeting – preferring to keep swiping for that elusive person who ticks all the boxes instantly. Either that, or I am just one of the dull people that Paloma alludes to.