Just by reading through our archive of posts, you will notice that in-law conflict happens quite a lot. Reasons for the rift vary, but they often involve someone being unreasonable or acting entitled.
It’s because of these toxic behaviors that stories like this one that you’re about to read are happening. Here, a woman is seemingly intent on making her daughter-in-law’s life a living nightmare.
Her toxic behavior reached peak levels when she began an unpleasant relationship with a man that her family wasn’t fond of. Scroll through for the entire story.
Some in-law conflicts reach toxic levels
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It happened between this woman and her mother-in-law who she claims has been hostile toward her
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Their conflict reached peak levels when the MIL entered a relationship with a man that her family wasn’t fond of
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The woman finally stood up to her mother-in-law, which only worsened their conflict
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Reasons for conflicts with mothers-in-law may run deep
Based on the author’s account, it appears that her mother-in-law has some deep-seated ill feelings toward her. The resentment seems to run deep, and experts say it could stem from several factors.
According to social psychology professor Madeleine Fugère, one possibility is that the mother-in-law may have had someone else in mind for her child to marry.
“Because of these different preferences, we may choose mates for ourselves whom our parents would not have chosen for us,” Fugère wrote in an article for Psychology Today. “This may lead to an initial dislike on the part of our in-laws, which can be difficult to overcome.”
Fugère also noted how mothers of men may not approve of long-term relationships for their sons. As she further explained, it has evolutionary roots: men seek shorter-term relationships to pass on their genes.
“The interference of a mother-in-law in her son and daughter-in-law’s relationship may reflect a mother’s unconscious desire to help her son ‘spread his seed,’” Fugère said.
Whatever the case may be, in-law conflict (especially toxic ones, at that) is no good for anybody, and it would be up to the daughters-in-law to extend the olive branch to maintain the peace.
According to Verywell Mind, effective conflict resolution begins with constructive, respectful communication, which provides a strong foundation for easing tensions.
The woman may have worsened the situation by threatening the mother-in-law with her grandkids. She may have been better off ignoring the toxicity by distancing herself as much as possible.
However, given how toxic her mother-in-law had been, which seemed to have begun to push her to her limits, her reaction was understandable.
Many readers sided with the woman
Some faulted everyone involved
However, a few readers thought she went a bit overboard with her threat
