In this day and age where most things are normalized, one would think that we are close to breaking free from the harmful stereotypes that restrict men and women every day. Unfortunately, we are still far from it, with gender roles still deeply rooted in our culture and reinforced by role models and the media.
Redditor Much_Description690 was especially interested in the things gals get wrong about guys, further feeding into false judgments that negatively affect them. To know more about them, they started a discussion online asking, “Women of Reddit, what lie did you believe to be true about men that you discovered was false?”
In response, many females shared misconceptions about males they thought were true for a long time but turned out to be a complete myth. Scroll down to find the most eye-opening and wholesome ones, which might change the way you see the masculine gender.
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After reading several entries (or from just being alive), it’s evident that men are seen in society as being the stronger, self-sufficient, tougher, and overall less emotional gender.
There’s even an existing construct that is called “Man Box,” which is essentially a list of behaviors that are traditionally expected from boys and men, like being dominant, resilient, and heterosexual.
In order to adhere to them, they are implicitly and explicitly discouraged from being emotional, vulnerable, or “girly” because such behaviors aren’t in the “Man Box” and therefore are unacceptable. And if you don’t fit in that box, you can’t be a “real” man, which might cause males to struggle to be accepted in society.
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However, a bigger issue we should start addressing is what the future of masculinity looks like, further leading to the question of what kinds of men we want the little boys to become.
As Gary Barker, CEO of Equimundo Center for Masculinities and Social Justice, noted in Forbes, we have already started to rewrite a new world for girls, promising them strength and leadership, but we haven’t done this for boys. As a result, many men are confused about what modern manhood is about, which discourages them from finding this out.
Perhaps we need to stop seeing gender roles as a threat and instead focus on what is working and what no longer is. Some stereotypes can hold both men and women back and impact their mental health. The American Psychological Association has found that men who conform to the ideals of traditional masculinity are more likely to suffer from cardiovascular diseases, engage in heavy drinking, and even commit suicide.
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Barker added, “Most boys and men are aching not for things to stay the same, but for a new script. A script that includes being emotionally connected; being equal caregivers; supporting full equality in the workplace; supporting full equality for individuals of all sexual orientations and gender identities, and being able to ask for help when they need it.”
In reality, this is not a man’s or a woman’s issue; it’s everyone's, as equality benefits us all. It helps us to thrive, and it’s our responsibility to start that change and free our society from harmful stereotypes.
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That all men would be against me learning “guy things” like fixing my own vehicles, or working a blue collar job. Turns out, my favorite teachers and biggest cheerleaders in any “guy thing” I want to try are men.
So thank you, to the amazing, kind, supportive, wonderful men who share their knowledge and encourage women to learn important life skills."if they're mean to you, it's be cause they really like you."
What a load of b******t. Very damaging thing to say to a young girl also.Men don't have emotions.
B******t. Men are very emotional creatures. They just aren't 'allowed' to express most of their emotions which leads to health issues, both mental and physical.That women talk a lot but men don’t. Like, have you met a man? They just don’t shut up!That *all* men prefer thin women.
False. I've met countless men who have genuinely no attraction to thin women. In fact, plenty of men prefer women who are slightly to moderately larger than average, and some men prefer women who are much, much larger than average. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.
Edit: *Thank you* everyone who got the point. To everyone else, y'all are... never mind.?That if a guy broke up with a girl he was “just scared of his feelings”. I swear chicks told each other this all the time. Like no girl he’s just not into you?They don’t need foreplay. They absolutely do, they aren’t boner machines. They’re only human.A lot of these answers are simply women registering with shock and surprise when they realize that men too are human beings, often with complicates internal lives.
You can live in this culture indefinitely without being exposed to that idea.For a long time I was given the impression that a majority of men viewed sex as a degrading act upon a woman, even if they were the ones having sex with that woman - rather than seeing it as an act of intimacy or an expression of love. Turns out an *extremely vocal* minority like to paint it that way while claiming that all other men feel the same.I know this may sound dumb but I didn’t think men could feel insecure. Every guy I know has an insane amount of confidence, I’ve never seen any male figures in my life show anything close to insecurity. I guess they’re just really good at masking it.My wife was surprised that men could be organized when she moved in with me and my place was very tidy.Men don't like flowers. They often do but have never had a need to develop preferences towards them.That men fundamentally don’t care about romance and only desire sex in their relationships with women. Super cynical, pretty misandrist take but being on social media a decent amount of the day and seeing degrading posts or comments about women from some of the guys on there definitely makes you believe men just hate women.
But no, my boyfriend (recent development) is so f*****g awesome. He’s such a hopeless romantic like me and I am so lucky to have such a lovable idiot in my life ??My dad has the knack. Something not right about your house/car/computer/ appliance/dog? You don't have to explain, he's already fixed it. I genuinely thought this was inherent to men, because my dad makes everything look so easy.Men don’t gossip.
Men are the bigggggest gossips. I love it.I grew up in a household where men didn't find things cute. Was very suprised in high school when guy friends would say things were cute and actually mean it not sarcastically. Still think about men finding things cute to this day ?That there's a sure fire way of pleasing a man, in every regard. Some sort of formula a woman must follow to be liked by men. It shouldn't be surprising to realize men are individual people, with their own likes and dislikes. Sure some things please more men, and some things bother many, but no 2 men are the same. Shocking!The amount of women I've read on Reddit that believe if a man gets a boner it means he's sexually aroused is astonishing.I thought women were dramatic. Turns out men are so f*****g dramatic for no reason??Not me but a coworker of mine was raised to believe that men shouldn’t show emotions. She wouldn’t let her son to cry as a child or teenager and said she basically bullied him into manning up. She moved away from where she grew up and realized how f****d up that was. She said she really regrets treating him like thatMy wife was really blown away when I knew how to cook. Matter of fact I do all our cooking, she never has to do anything other than occasionally air fry some chicken nuggets or a corn dog for our daughter.
I’ve realized as I’ve gotten older, most guys I know don’t cook. Which blows my mind.That if a guy was raised by a single mom automatically becomes compassionate and soft hearted person especially towards woman so not true .That women can't be platonic friends with men or that men will always develop romantic feelings. most of my friends are men and i've literally never had that issueI was always told that to defend myself from a guy to hit his nuts. Hubby informed me (veteran army mp) that while it will hurt a guy, only a percentage will drop. It's just as likely to p**s him off and make him want to attack you worse. There are better places to attack for a smaller person like me.Concerning how many of these comments consist of women thinking these absolutely f*****g bonkers things about men, and only turning around because the guy they started dating, turned out to be a regular human“ the bigger the better “As a trans woman, I always assumed all guys wanted to be girls. Turns out it was just meThat they are always thinking about sex and always in the mood. I grew up thinking all men around me and in my life will be evil and only want to hurt me. It messed up my view on the opposite gender so much I could barely stand alone in a room with a man without a panic attack, I’m now in love with a wonderful boy who who wouldn’t hurt a bug<3I grew up believing that men weren’t capable of love. Like I actually thought all men who were in a relationship could not possibly love the person they were with.
I met my husband in high school and he completely changed that belief! He showed so much love for me and was able to express that love in such a wholesome way that truly made me realize that I was so wrong.Men are all the same.
(No one is.)I've been told men get boners when they run. Since I don't know many men, my only family is my mother and all my friends are female, I fully believed it and never even questioned it. spoke to a guy a few years later and mentioned this, apparently men do not get boners when they run and I got absolutely bullshitted.Men know everything. Turns out, they're just VERY confidentThat some men prefer peeing sitting down. My bf has never, not once, left the toilet seat up, because he didn't raise it in the first place ?12 yo me thought a blow job was 'you blow on it like birthday candlesThat their sex drives are higher ??When I was a kid my mom worked days and my dad worked evenings/nights so my dad was the “stay-at-home” dad that cooked and cleaned and played with us kids or took us to do stuff and it absolutely blew my mind to learn it was traditionally the “woman’s job”My Ex-GF really thought that men dont have emotions, Like sadness or any sad feelings. It really took her long to believe me that we have emotions. Wasnt really the best relationship I had.That men can voluntarily move their d**k… Watched a guy sitting down flip it up on his stomach from it being in a downward position. May have made him do it a few times lol. Don’t know why I thought a guy couldn’t do that. Guess I thought they always needed a hand or momentum to move it around.I was told men had a ring of balls around their penis. Turns out that was a lie.That they are logical and can separate logic and emotions easily. Especially when it came to sex.That men are boring. sassiest creatures alive.They don’t form emotional attachments with womenThat men only show they like you by having sex with you
