An 'exhausted' mum, overloaded with life, work, and parenting, has made a heartfelt plea for advice. She has lost all perspective on her marriage and wonders why her husband is 'so selfish' because he takes holidays without her and their son.
Taking to Mumsnet to rant about the situation, the response to her post has been overwhelming, with many questioning why she even puts up with her husband’s self-serving behaviour.
"I am having a hard time in my marriage at the moment. My husband shouts a lot. He has no patience. This behaviour is really exhausting," she explains.
"He works in a high pressured job but he is paid very well for it. I work part time 3 days per week in a demanding job. I do all the housework, shopping, school runs, every part of life admin you can imagine (plus mental load) and I pay relatively to his salary, a huge proportion of my salary to cover bills."
She claims to accept this arrangement, but recognition of her contribution would be so welcome, as she writes: "I am fine with doing everything but it is never acknowledged."
"I feel a lot of resentment towards the way he treats me. He glazes over when I try to engage with him. He doesn’t really bother checking in when he is working away.
"He never comes straight home, always stays out late drinking. No school stuff, no housework, nothing other than his job. His free time is his own too."
Things only get worse, as the mum reveals that her husband enjoys plenty of getaways without her and their son.
"He goes on lots of holidays throughout the year without me and our son as it’s usually term time. He also goes away on weekends with his mates for walking breaks in the UK."
To top what already looks like a bad situation, she says she suffers from a chronic illness, and has anxiety and panic attacks, and he makes no effort to comfort or reassure her.
"He is an entirely selfish person. If I tell him I feel drained or poorly, he always says, ‘what about me?’ Everything is about him. He always minimises my feelings. He’s always been like this and he will never change. I don’t know what to do anymore. Is this even normal?" she asks Mumsnet.
Many commenters flooded to the post to offer support to the woman, and slammed the husband for his actions.
"It doesn’t sound like he even likes you. But that you’re useful to have about so he can further his career and self-worth at the detriment to your own," one person wrote.
Another added: "Blimey he sounds absolutely awful and selfish! Absolutely NOT normal nor acceptable. You deserve so much more than the crumbs he throws you".
A third commenter offered some sobering advice: "Where is the love, care and respect for you? He sounds awful and you deserve so much more. You are his housekeeper and servant, nothing more. Do yourself and your child a favour and leave this man."
