My partner snores and won’t do anything about it. Help!

‘Everybody knows the wrung-out, spun-out feeling of a bad sleep.’ Painting: Sarg des Heiligen Grabes in der Frauenkirche zu Memmingen: Schlafender Grabwächter mit Streitkolben und Schwert by Bernhard Strigel. Photograph: Wikimedia Commons

I am driven insane by my partner’s inaction – he won’t do a thing to counteract the devastating volume and intensity of his snoring. He won’t adopt a healthier lifestyle (which has made a huge difference in the past). This infuriates me. The onus now seems to be on me for “sleeping too light”.

It’s gone beyond the snoring itself. Now it’s the lack of care for himself … and me! I truly hate the sound and sometimes I just want to leave this whole relationship.