My partner sleeps at least 10 hours a night. Should I accept this situation won’t change?

‘With sleep, as with any other morally neutral lifestyle preferences, we have to be careful not to take for granted that our preferred way is objectively better,’ writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith. Painting: Old Man Sleeping by David Rijckaert (III). Illustration: Gem Archive/Alamy

I am in a relationship with a lovely man who I first dated when we were 19 and 20 years old respectively. Now in our mid-50s, we have been together for three years. We laugh a lot and enjoy doing lots of things together – his enthusiasm for travel matches mine.

The issue is he sleeps a lot – at least 10 hours a night but could be 12 hours. He could easily stay in bed until 1pm on any day off. This means when we are on one of our frequent trips away, we rarely get to do things together in the morning – a time I love. I’ve addressed it with him and he sometimes makes the effort, but then reverts back. We don’t live together and only see each other one day a week, so time is precious and I often end up waiting around for him to get up.