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The Guardian - UK
The Guardian - UK
Lifestyle
Pamela Stephenson Connolly

My partner is non-binary. I’m worried the lack of traditional gender roles is affecting our sex life

Illustration showing a gender-non-specific person with their arm around another one
‘Even a high degree of closeness can reduce the erotic spark.’ Composite: Guardian Design; Sheila Alonso/Getty Images

My partner and I are in our mid-20s and we have been together for just over a year. They are non-binary and all of my previous relationships have been with women (I am a woman). I love my partner so much, but our intimacy has become a lot less regular over the course of our relationship. I wonder if it’s because of the absence of a strong feminine/masculine dynamic, where one person is expected to have a specific role. Do you have any advice for overcoming this?

Are specific roles important to you? Are they important to your partner? This would be an enlightening conversation to have with them.

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