I’m a 33-year-old man who has been in a relationship with a woman for the best part of two years. While we have had ups and downs during our relationship, we do still regularly have sex. At the start, the sexual intimacy was good – and we both initiated. But recently I’ve noticed less interest from my partner, while my libido levels have remained really high. It feels like my partner only engages to satisfy me.
People do sometimes go through the motions of lovemaking without really wanting to – they bypass their real feelings for some reason, such as wanting to stay in the relationship. If you are sensing this in your partner, it’s time to have a gentle and non-blaming talk with her. Perhaps you could ask her what else you could do to give her more pleasure. Ask if there is something hindering her sexual enjoyment, such as work stress or general anxiety. Perhaps she has a physical issue she has not yet disclosed.
