A woman has turned to the internet for advice after her mother-in-law brought alcohol to their home where her husband is a recovering alcoholic. The woman said that, to encourage her husband's sobriety, she ensured the house did not have any alcohol and keeps it stocked with non-alcoholic options.
In the post on website Mumsnet, she said: "We had a family party at our home recently and my mother-in-law bought a bottle of Prosecco for herself, knowing it would be a dry party and that my husband and his brother- her two sons are on wagon. Nobody said anything but my husband did admit it made him feel a bit 'weird and uncomfortable' having alcohol in the house."
The woman said that her husband was just over a year sober. She added: "He's doing amazingly and I'm so proud of him." She said her husband's sibling was also a recovering alcoholic but was much more recently sober. You can get more features, news articles and other story updates by subscribing to our newsletters here.
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She added: "Both siblings are from a family that like a drink. I mean, like a drink a lot. As in 'gin o'clock' signs all over the kitchen and start drinking every day at 5pm until you pass out in bed. A very middle class functional alcoholic household, with Prosecco, gin and red wine consumed as opposed to cider and cheap vodka."
In spite of the fact that her children were recovering alcoholics, the woman was "shocked" that her mother-in-law turned up to the family party with alcohol. She asked for the advice of the other mums, saying: "I wouldn't turn up at an alcoholic's house with a bottle of booze, even if it was just for me. I don't know if I am being unreasonable though. Would I be unreasonable to have a polite word and ask her not to bring booze round here again?" A woman was left shocked when her friend invited herself on her honeymoon - read more here.
What are your thoughts? Let us know in the comments.
In the comments one person said: "Of course you are not being unreasonable. Your husband's mother of all people should want to support her son."
Another added: "I think it's your house and your party and you can do what you like. I'd be explicit with the invite that it's a non-alcoholic party and I'd take it off her at the door if she did it again. It's unreasonable to expect no-one to drink around him but your house your rules. I personally wouldn't take alcohol to someone's party to drink if they weren't providing alcohol- no more than I'd take meat with me to a vegetarians dinner if they weren't providing meat."
Whilst another said: "It's not like you went to their house and asked them to get rid of their booze. You can absolutely ask people not to bring alcohol to your house. No-one needs alcohol. You'd think she'd be more concerned about helping them having raised two alcoholics. I'd definitely be questioning my parenting if I was her."
