If you really want a tattoo, the likelihood is that you've chosen a design, researched a tattoo artist who can do something like that for you, saved up enough money to get it done, and then booked in a session with them. You wouldn't give anything a second thought, other than the fact you're excited to get inked.
But one woman was left mortified after her husband was "super p***ed" after she got a tat in memory of her late father. Before her hubby saw it she "loved it so much", but said she wanted to "peel her skin off" at the way he had reacted to the design.
She took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to ask whether she was in the wrong for getting the colourful design in memory of her father.
She wrote: "So 10 years ago, around when I met my husband I got my first tattoo. Nothing crazy, just a flower on my ankle. As he was a new boyfriend at the time, I didn't really pay attention to his feelings or cues.
"A few years after we married and had our first child, I decided I wanted a light blue tattoo on my inner wrist to represent me and my baby, and he was huffy, but didn't say why. So I got it.
"Three years later I wanted another small one for a Friday the 13th Special, and that's when he finally told me he didn't like tattoos. He didn't give reasons, but he said he didn't like them. However, he didn't stop me when I got something representing our favorite video game."
They had a "long discussion" about how much the woman likes tattoos and how they're "important" to her. She explained to her husband that she wanted a memorial tattoo for her dad, and he said he wouldn't stop her from getting what she wanted.
She continued: "Today I saved the final amount needed and went to my appointment. I got a very colorful rooster, about the size of my palm. I loved it so much. He saw it and is super p****d.
"He's barely talking to me and is asleep. I want to peel my skin off immediately. I now hate it and want to undo it because I hate that he's mad at me. But he approved the design, it's just bigger than he expected. Was I wrong for getting it?"
In the comments, people were quick to tell the woman that it was her body, so therefore her choice whether she gets tattooed or not.
One wrote: "Please, do the appropriate aftercare and nurture your beautiful memorial of your father. You will probably be glad later that you got it.
"Your husband needs to either set aside his feelings about tattoos, in general, to let you have bodily autonomy, or he needs to leave."
Another said: "He's not supportive of you if he's a sulky baby about it and makes you feel bad for getting it. Especially in light of the circumstances where this is part of your grieving process. You deserve bodily autonomy and a truly supportive partner. I hope you get that, and enjoy your beautiful meaningful new tattoo."
Someone defended the husband though, commenting: "He isn't impacting her bodily autonomy at all. He isn't preventing her from getting the tattoos, he isn't locking her in a box.
"He said what he was comfortable with and she did something else. She absolutely has a right to do that and he agrees, but he also has a right to feel upset and lost."
A Redditor fumed: "What he's doing is manipulative. He actually doesn't get any say over her body at all. None. It doesn't matter what HE'S comfortable with, it's HER body."
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