Family - they can be the best people ever, but then they’re also full of pettiness, drama, and genuinely bizarre situations you couldn’t even think of in your wildest dreams.
For instance, who would imagine that their own sister would have an affair with their husband - and end up marrying him.
Well, that’s the reality for one Redditor, who took to Reddit's infamous ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum to ask for some advice after her sister got mad at her.
Turns out the original poster hadn’t invited her sister and ex-husband to her pregnancy announcement, and it didn’t go down well at all, despite the fact that the woman wasn’t invited to her sister’s wedding…double standards much?
She wrote: “For some very messy context; I (37F) am married to Ryan (36M). I have a sister who we'll call Sam (32F) and an ex-husband who we'll call Dan (34M).
“Cut straight to the point, Dan and Sam are married now. Dan had an affair with her which I only found out about through one of his friends who had felt guilty about knowing. We got divorced, and they got married a year later, and obviously, I wasn't invited.
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“While this was an awkward point in my family, we no longer talk about it. I usually just avoid the two of them where possible.
“Me and Ryan met a few years later, and have been married for two years now. Recently I found out I was pregnant and decided to hold a small family gathering with our parents, his sister and a few other close members. My sister and Dan were not invited.
“My mother brought this up, but forgot about it once I had told her the news. She told Sam apparently once she got home, which didn't surprise me really. I got a strongly worded text (to put it nicely) from Sam saying that it was horrible of me not to invite her as it 'excluded her from the family' and my baby was 'going to be her niece/nephew anyway.’
“We continued on talking, me explaining why she wasn't invited obviously, that being that I wanted a comfortable family gathering. Which led to her going on about her being a part of the family which meant she should've been invited.
“I spoke to my mother about it, and she agrees with Sam, saying that whether I like it or not I'd have to get used to Sam and Dan since they would be in the child's life. That not inviting them was petty of me. I don't really know what to think right now. AITA?"
Redditors were quick to defend the original poster, pointing out that the woman seems more than reasonable to have any sort of relationship with her sister and ex when they clearly did the dirty behind her back.
“I would’ve told her she’s not part of my family ever since she f***ed my husband, you’re definitely a very nice person to even talk to her after that”, one fumed.
One wrote: “Now would be a good time to inform her she will NEVER see your child. I am gobsmacked that you two even talk. You can’t have someone with so little character around your child. You are now responsible for raising a decent human being and need to shield them from the trash for as long as you can. Your sister is trash.”
“Yeah it’s very curious that grandma assumes that the cheaters will be part of the baby’s life. I would stay clear of those who want to sweep this under the rug and pretend she didn’t cheat and screw her sister over”, someone agreed.
Some people took their anger to the extreme, expressing how they would have absolutely nothing to do with the sister in question, writing: “I absolutely would not allow these people to be part of your or your child's life. They are clearly not good people. I agree they stopped being part of your family when they chose to betray you so horribly.
“You do not need toxic people in your life. You need to make this clear to your mother and set boundaries.
“Edit: P.s STOP talking to her, block her. Your sister does not care for you otherwise she would not have slept with your hubby. By talking to her you are kind of saying what she did was ok with you.”
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