Sometimes, it can be difficult to work out the right time to announce something as special as pregnancy. While the excitement may make you feel like you're ready to burst, sharing your big news - particularly when it's a sensitive topic for other friends and family members - can be tricky.
It's an unwritten rule that announcing your pregnancy news at another big family event is a no-go, as it risks taking the shine off the people who you're originally meant to be celebrating.
But when one woman wanted to announce her pregnancy at her cousin's wedding, her husband-to-be was not impressed with the idea, particularly given her cousin has been struggling to have a baby.
He said the plan was "wrong", especially as she hadn't asked for permission beforehand, as he said it risked taking the "spotlight" away from the pair.
The man took to Reddit to write: "My fiancée (29) and I (31M) just found out that we're pregnant. My fiancée mentioned that she wanted to wait to announce it at her cousin's wedding which will be taking place on Sunday.
"Her cousin and her husband have been struggling to get pregnant even with IVF. Recently they just got some news that their insurance has stopped funding IVF and not to mention the heartbreak of a recent miscarriage on Mother's Day. They almost understandably held off on the wedding.
"So when my fiancée brought it up to me, I told her it's not at all a good idea. This just seemed so wrong, especially it being at their wedding. I asked if she was going to at least ask her cousin for permission and she said, no because she wanted it to be a surprise for everyone.
"I told her it's not the time nor the place for that and it would take the spotlight off the couple (in her family there hasn't been a baby in three years so we'd be the first in that time)."
But the woman was still arguing that it was the "perfect time" because it's a "joy". She even said "their problems shouldn't keep her from telling something so positive, so it's on them if they turn it negative."
But her husband-to-be argued that she'd be "selfish" if she went through with it.
He continued: "She cried and claimed I wasn't being supportive and I shouldn't be calling my pregnant fiancée selfish. She doesn't want me to come with her to the wedding anymore either, feeling as if I would 'kill the mood'. She hasn't been talking to me either."
In the comments, people supported the man's view, saying that it was "cruel" for his partner to do the pregnancy announcement at her cousin's wedding.
One fumed: "Your fiancée has a bad case of main character syndrome."
Another raged: "I'm sorry to say this but only narcissistic people would pull this c**p at someone's wedding, much less one where the bride had a recent miscarriage.
"There are four things you NEVER EVER do at a wedding without express approval from bride and groom: wear white, propose, come out, or announce a pregnancy. Your fianceé wants to take the limelight away from her cousin and that is awful. Good luck, not the a**hole, AND do not let her ruin that wedding."
"How gross and ugly", someone commented, while another said: "The cherry on top is knowing that the couple getting married is having issues getting pregnant, and yet she still thinks it's a good idea."
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