Naming your baby is no small feat - you need to know that their moniker will suit them, and it's something you're going to love calling them for years to come. Names you'll probably want to avoid, however, are ones with negative connotations such as those of people you don't speak to anymore, such as ex-partners.
That's why one woman was left dumbfounded when her partner suggested that they name their newborn daughter after his two ex-girlfriends. She took to Reddit's 'Am I the a**hole' forum to express her horror at his suggestion, claiming he branded her as 'sensitive, foolish, childish and jealous' because she refused to even use them as middle names.
She fumed: "First off some background information I, female 27, and my fiancé, male 27 have been dating for five years. Before Covid my fiancé had proposed to me but because of Covid we decided not to get married, but we finally decided to get married and have our wedding in April.
"Now to the actual problem, me and my fiancé who we'll call Xander, just had our first daughter in December. Once she was born we were already thinking about cute baby names for her and Xander had told me he liked Melissa or Rihanna (fake names for the sake of privacy). I liked the names and even almost named her Rihanna until he told me why he wanted one of the names.
"He claimed that he thought of the names from his exes and told me that while he didn't love his exes anymore he still really liked the names and wanted his daughter to be named one of the two names. But I was not having it, I quickly told him I wouldn't name her any of the names even though he said he never liked them anymore.
"He tried to reason with me and recommended them as just middle names and I still told him no. He looked shocked after I told him no and he had yelled back at me telling me I was being sensitive, foolish, childish, and jealous for not even considering them as middle names.
"But once I heard that I had completely flipped and told him that I would call the wedding off if he still named her after one of his exes. He looked demolished after what I had said and he just left the room.
"For the last week, I've been staying with my cousin because I felt bad for yelling at him and I didn't want to see him as I think we both need a little break from each other after our argument.
"Everything's been really stressful lately as he's told his family and they've been blowing up my phone with text messages calling me a b**** and a huge a**hole for yelling at him instead of actually trying to work things out or maybe just listening to him along with other texts berating me.
"So, am I the a**hole for telling my Fiancé I'd call our wedding off if he named our daughter after his two exes?"
In the comments, people were horrified that he'd even consider naming his daughter after his ex-girlfriend, with some asking 'what is he thinking?'
One Redditor fumed: "It's beyond inappropriate to name a child with your partner after a past partner. It's disrespectful, and I don't know how anyone could think it's a good idea."
Another wrote: "He needs to move on. They're [sic] like 8 million other possible baby names out there when the time comes to start thinking about that, with you, his future wife."
Others gave advice to the woman, suggesting she needed to break up with him, commenting: "Of all the other names in the world his choices were two of his exes. Either he's the slowest guy in the world or he is actively trying to break up with you. I can not see another reason why one would insist on naming your child after an ex.
"Does his family know why you guys were fighting? You're not the a**hole. Consider canceling nonetheless, it doesn't sound like he's over them."
What would you do in this situation? Let us know in the comments.
