A woman has expressed her devastation online after claiming that her boyfriend of eight months has just discovered that his ex-girlfriend has given birth to his baby.
The man alleges the pair broke up as they had 'nothing in common'. He states that he received a message on LinkedIn confirming that he was the father of her newborn daughter.
Taking to popular forum site Mumsnet, the anonymous user stressed her upset following the 'fresh' and stressful situation.
The pair met in October 2022 and the woman describes it as the 'best relationship of [her] life' before they became aware of the life-changing news.
She explained: "His last encounter before we met was at the end of August. Tbf my last encounter before him was shorter so I'm not mad at that lol.
"His situation ended badly to the point they blocked each other. Last last week the ex got in contact with him via LinkedIn to let him know she's having a baby and it's his. He had all of a week to come to terms with it and she was born last Sunday.
"He wants to be as involved as possible and is willing to support her. He still loves me and he still wants our life and future together.
"He's still going to do a DNA (test) because you never know, especially since they were rocky at the end.
"They broke up because in his words, they had nothing in common, she was talking to other guys, she's not ambitious, and is happy with a mediocre life (which he definitely isn't and I'm not either), and she had another child."
Sharing her concerns, the woman wrote: "Basically my question/ advice I'm seeking is how to be ok with it because right now I'm not and I think I'm being unreasonable, but I can't help it. I feel jealous I'm not the one to share all this with him for the first time.
"He still wants kids with me and marriage and everything. He's been very reassuring so that's something but I can’t help it. And I don't want to end up resenting anyone.
"It's not the issue of him having a child. I've dated guys before with kids. It's because it's so fresh and I have no idea where they stand with each other other than his word, whereas in the past it's been guys that haven't been with their exes for years.
"I love him more than anything and I want us to work but I hate how I feel," she added.
Since sharing her concerns, the woman's post has raked in over 160 comments to date - where people rushed to share their opinions.
One person assured: "Jealousy/envy is a completely understandable feeling, don’t beat yourself up for it."
Meanwhile, someone else suggested: "Take it slow. Get a DNA test, and give it a few more months to process."
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