Asking a close friend or relative to be your maid of honour is a huge moment. It's a major responsibility for whoever takes it on, but it shows just how important that person is in your life. Whoever you choose is likely to be loyal - and hopefully organised.
But what would you do if you asked someone to be your maid of honour, only for them to not even make you a bridesmaid when their big day came around?
One woman was left heartbroken when her maid of honour didn't even grant her a spot in her wedding party, after landing the top gig at her wedding.
The gutted woman took to Mumsnet to vent her frustrations, explaining that she wanted to "end the friendship over not being a bridesmaid."
She wrote: "I had a lovely wedding a couple of years ago. My best friend of many years was my chief bridesmaid, she was my witness and made a speech too. I paid for her bridesmaid's dress, jewellery, for her hair and make-up.
"She did a bit of a pants job of organising my hen party which was stressful as I had to pick up the slack, but over the years she's been a great friend to me and I've always felt really lucky and proud to have her in my life as such a close friend.
"My friend got engaged last year and I assumed that she would ask me to be her maid of honour too. But time went by and eventually, I got an invitation to her hen party from another friend of hers, which confirmed my fears that I wasn't going to be asked to be a bridesmaid.
"I was incredibly hurt that my friend hadn't spoken to me to let me down gently, but I didn't want to confront her because I knew that she had other difficult things going on in her life and because I couldn't see what good could come of making a fuss."
But the hen party came round, and she said she found it "incredibly difficult" and "humiliating", which prompted feelings of wanting to end the friendship.
She continued: "It felt humiliating that everyone knew that she had been my chief bridesmaid but I hadn't been given any role in hers. It was upsetting to see her talking excitedly about plans for the wedding weekend with the bridesmaids. It was jarring to see how amazing and well-planned her hen party was - it brought it home how little effort she had put into mine.
"I'd recently tried to organise a holiday with her but she'd said she didn't have enough annual leave to spare, but in front of me at the weekend she was organising a holiday with other friends.
"I can't see us moving past this. The friendship wasn't what I thought it was, and I feel like a fool. It's made me feel worthless - that someone that I valued so highly would so completely not feel the same way."
She said that she didn't think "anything she could say would save the friendship", so she was planning on attending the wedding and then quietly ghosting her. She then asked Mumsnet whether her plan was unreasonable, as she was not wanting to bring anything up to her about her disappointment.
Many people slammed the woman in the comments for being selfish, however, saying it wasn't about her.
One wrote: "Oh get over it being so entitled. This is her wedding, not yours, stop making it all about you."
Someone commented: "I found myself in a similar situation and the friendship sadly never recovered. If this kind of role (which is meaningful and signals affection) isn't reciprocated, it's a powerful message. When it happened to me, I felt as though it was a clear signal that the friendship/mutual affection wasn't as equal as I thought it was."
Another sympathised: "You're not being unreasonable to feel the way you do and I agree you clearly don't see the friendship the same way as each other, which is very hurtful. More so, that she seemingly doesn't care enough to even consider your feelings about not having a role.
"However, as I think you know, it's up to her who she chooses and you can't dictate that."
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