A woman has been warned that her husband is having an affair behind her back, after sharing her initial suspicions online.
The mum-of-two posted on online social forum Mumsnet, about her husband wining and dining a female colleague, and not paying any attention to his family.
The anonymous user went into detail that she is currently pregnant with their second child, and he is consistently avoiding being at home by spending time with a work friend.
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Writing on Mumsnet, the woman said: "I’m at the end of my tether. My husband of almost 2 years and I met in 2018 at work.
"We had a lovely relationship and following our marriage started a family quickly (I think it took us by surprise how quickly we conceived but don’t get me wrong I’m very grateful for that).
"We have one son who is almost a year old and I am currently pregnant (a little unexpectedly) with our second child due in the autumn.
"Over the last couple of years and more so since our son was born my husband has been spending lots of time with a female colleague at work.
"Lots of ‘work’ related lunches, drinks and dinners which by and large I get are part of his work life as she is on one of his teams but it feels like whenever he does ANYTHING social she is there. More so than any other colleague."
The woman went on to describe how she has an 'instinct' in not wanting to get to know the colleague, and how her husband had began lying to hide social outings.
She continued: "Call it a woman’s instinct but I have never been that keen on her having known her too as we all work at the same company.
"However I have been on maternity leave for the last year. Instances such as my husband lying about leaving Christmas drinks and diverting to have drinks with her and others on his way home.
"Leaving a long work lunch with others together then husband goes MIA for 3 hours late at night, gets home and claims to have wondered round a nearby Common on his own for a few hours …!
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"As we all work together I can see both their work diaries and they often have similar blocks over lunches and in the afternoons marked ‘private’."
The woman explains that she has confronted her partner, but he has denied everything - but her gut is telling her something isn't right.
She added: "I have confronted him about this on a few occasions and he denies anything is happening and that he feels ‘sorry’ for her that I am giving her such a hard time and picking on her like this.
"I feel like I’m turning into a paranoid individual but my gut is telling me something is off. This female colleague also lives quite close to us in London so plenty of scope for them to head back from work socials together and getting up to goodness knows what.
"I have asked to see his phone and I can’t see anything that suggests an affair by way of WhatsApp messages, calls etc.
"They were part of a work ski trip in January and the only message he has from her is from then in the afternoon saying ‘are you coming back?’ which could mean anything and not necessarily that they’re up to no good.
"My husband has no social media and I have checked his work chat app and not seen anything on there but messages automatically disappear after 24 hours."
Despite all this, there was one thing that stuck out to the mum, as she said: "However the real kicker is I recently found lots of condoms in his work backpack that he keeps his laptop in and goes everywhere with him Monday - Friday.
"Literally 7 or 8 of them not a small number. I asked him about them and he said they’re ancient back from when him and I used them and during lockdown at my parents I’d sneak off to where he was working and we’d have sex.
"Am I being naive to believe him and that nothing is going on with this woman?
"I really don’t want my marriage to fail after only two years and my children to have to go through that. But at the same time something is very fishy."
Many Mumsnet users were in agreement that there was definitely something up with her partner and this work colleague, as one wrote: "I’m sorry it doesn’t sound good.
"People at work usually notice this kind of behaviour. Are you close to anyone at work who also knows them that you could speak to about it."
Another said: "Oh dear, it sounds like you already know the answer. That is brazen though, with a colleague while wife who also works with you is on ML/with a colleague who also works with your wife.
"Are there any colleagues you could ask about your concerns? It doesn't sound like they're bing in the least bit discreet."
A third wrote: "Sounds like the excitement of your relationship has gone with having a baby and another on the way and he's now looking for that with this woman.
"This is not a family man but a snake. Get your ducks in a row."
More comments read: "Sorry, but there is a huge amount of red flags and lies coming from him. I think that tells you everything.
"It's obviously up to you how you proceed, but once they start feeling sorry for the other woman and labelling you as crazy, it shows you where their true feelings lie."
Others said: "That doesn't sound good...yes, I'd say there's a very high probability that he's cheating."
Meanwhile, one Mumsnet user added: "I really hope for you your family and your unborn baby that this man isn’t doing what you think he is."
Another said: "So suspect to say he was wondering around a common for hours, not just one hour but multiple hours. Who does that late at night?"
And finally, one concluded: "Sorry but I believe he’s as guilty as sin , too many red flags. And condoms, so he hasn’t removed those in five years! He must think you are stupid!"
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