While friends and family often rush to welcome a newborn with open arms, it's often a completely different situation in the delivery room. Instead, an expectant mother will often decide to have one or two people at her side during the birth.
However, the controversial decision of who's present has been known to cause rifts and ruin relationships. Taking to popular forum Mumsnet, a pregnant woman has admitted that her mother is furious after she's banned her from the delivery room by choosing her partner and best friend instead.
The woman explained: "Second baby and my birth plan is to have my partner and best friend in the delivery room with me."
She went on: "For many reasons although particularly because my best friend and me can absolutely laugh through anything and she gets on great with my partner too.
"This has caused animosity with my mother. My mother seems to think that she should be in with me because she's my mum.
"I didn't have her at my first birth it was simply me and my partner. This time around I know what to expect and would love my friend's support.
"Myself and my mum aren't close, we rarely see each other and she is never exactly interested in my firstborn.
"For some perspective, I haven't seen my mum since Christmas Eve and saw her approx five times in 2022 only because I made the effort.
"This has caused a rift and since she made the assumption that she would be in the delivery room and me telling her no, she hasn't spoken to me or got in touch, this was Xmas Eve.
"What she has done however is moan to people that she is not coming in who seem to be reiterating that she IS entitled to come in (this is being filtered back to me).
Seeking advice from fellow Mumsnet users, she questioned: "Am I being unreasonable to not reach out and simply allow her to continue to wallow in self-pity?
"Why on earth should she be able to bully and coerce her way in and have other people contacting me telling me I'm selfish?"
Taking to the comment section, one person assured: "You're not being unreasonable at all."
Meanwhile, someone else said: "No. You're completely right and sensible. She's making this about her, and adding stress to you whilst you're pregnant is just her evidencing that you made the right choice."
A different user wrote: "Wow. Nope, nope and more nope. I'd be repeating 'I've made my decision' to any and all comments."
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