A mother who admits she regrets the name her husband picked for their son feels 'weird' every time she says her child's name out loud. The woman said she eventually ended up calling her three-year-old son Cillian when he was born because she couldn't come to an agreement with her partner on a name.
She has now confessed however she regretted the name the year after he was born but was never able to bring herself to officially change it, Wales Online reports. The mum says although she 'adores' her little boy it feels strange saying his name when she introduces her son to people and she is upset she hasn't been able to use one of her favourite names for her own child.
Taking to Mumsnet, the anonymous author explained: “We couldn’t agree on names, and I ended up agreeing to my husband’s favourite straight after a c-section. I had so much regret the year after he was born but could never quite bring myself to change it.
“I think if my husband had known I would still be agonising over it three years later he would have let me change it. I love names and have been thinking about them since I was a young girl so to not have been able to use my favourite names has really got to me.
“Every time I introduce him, I feel weird saying his name, and I feel regret that I can’t introduce a name I love. I adore my little boy so much and feel a lot of guilt about this.”
Users flocked to the comments to reassure the mother with advice and told her Cillian was a 'lovely' name. One said : “It’s just a perfectly normal name, so you have no reason to feel guilty.
“When you introduce him to people they won’t be thinking ‘WTF is that name’, it’s just his name. It might not be to your personal preference but there’s nothing extreme or ugly about it.
“If you have named him something random like ‘dog’ it would be different, but you’ve just given him a normal name, it’s fine.” The anonymous mother explained that she uses the nickname 'Cilli' for him which suits him because he is 'little and cute'.
However, she often worries her 'shy' son's nickname might get shortened to something else on the playground at school one day like 'kill' or 'killer' and she regrets not calling him something more simple.
She added: “His middle names are family names - he could choose to go by one of them if he wanted but it would feel too strange to change it now. My husband is Irish, and whenever we go to Ireland, I love the fact he has an Irish name.”
Many users told the doubtful mum they 'loved' her son's name and the mum was grateful for the reassurance and support. She replied: “It’s very useful hearing people say they love it, thank you.
Another supporter said: “I think it's lovely. Not too common (in England) but not totally out there/unusual either. I wouldn't worry about the 'kill' sound, and it wouldn't occur to me if I was introduced/heard his name.”
Someone else replied: “A friend's baby son is called Cillian and I love his name. I've noticed it popping up more and more recently, so it probably won't be such a rare name when your son goes to school.” One user related to the mother's disappointment in not being able to use one of her favourite names for her children but offered a solution to her problem.
They wrote: “I expect a lot of people have the same feelings as you when they didn't get to use their favourite names, because most people have to compromise on something that they both agree on. If it helps, I was also disappointed not to use my favourite names, so I named my dog one of them and I genuinely love that I get to say his name a lot now, even if it's a dog and not a little human.
"So, there's an option for you. Cillian is a lovely name.”
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