A man was left furious after his partner got on a flight without him when he forgot his passport.
The distressed woman took to Reddit for advice, asking 'am I the a**hole' after she made the journey without him. Describing his forgetfulness as 'serious', she told how she felt as though she had become responsible for carrying his vital documents.
She wrote: "I've been with my boyfriend (I'll call him Paul) for three years and living together for six months. Paul has serious problems with forgetting important documents and after the four times he did this, I became responsible for carrying our documents in my purse.
"According to him, all documents have a digital version and that is enough, not all are digital (passport) and not all places accept the digital form, but he is stubborn and maintains this position. I don't mind being responsible for the documents and most of the time, I have them in my purse. That is until one day (two months ago) he called me asking about his identity, because he needed it for something and they didn't accept the digital version, I was at work and I informed him that I had with me. He gave me a huge scolding, saying that their documents should be at home and told me to stop "holding" his documents.
"I handed his documents over to him and said that I would no longer be responsible for this or warn him about it, because I was doing a favour for someone I love who is a capable adult (27)."
The Mirror reports that she then explained the situation she recently found herself in, saying that she and her boyfriend were travelling to another country for New Year's Eve. But due to the situation, she left him to his own devices with his documents, and he'd forgotten his passport.
The woman continued: "We decided to go to the airport 4 hours before (visit the VIP room) and I went to check all my documents first. Paul was on my side and when he saw only one passport, he asked about his and I just said, 'You have it'.
"He panicked, saying he thought I had taken even more passports as usual and left it at home. He decided to run home and come back, he asked me to go with him but I didn't want to spend 4 hours in the car. He went to get his passport (but complained that this was something to remember him by) and I went with my friends to the airport. In short, he didn't arrive on time and I decided I wouldn't miss my trip because of him. I turned off my cell phone and made my 12h trip.
"When I arrived, several messages from him saying that he couldn't believe that I had gone on a trip without him and that I had done it as forms of revenge because of his scolding. The flights are all booked up or too expensive, so he probably won't come. He's still accusing me of leaving him behind after purposely not remember something I know he struggles with.
"My friends are on my side, but I feel doubtful. Am I the a**hole? I forgot one detail: I always make a list for our trips of what to take, his passport was on the list and he still forgot it."
People defended the woman, saying he'd asked for his documents back and she'd done that, so she hadn't done anything wrong.
One wrote: "Not the a**hole. He wanted his documents back. You gave him his documents back. He forgot his documents", and someone added: "And the original poster even made him a LIST with the passport on it!"
"Even if my partner was holding my documents, I'd still ask to make sure", someone fumed.
Another wrote: "He wanted his documents back, yet he has incompetence issues. You can't blow hot and cold at the same time."
Someone raged: "Even if he thought you may have had it he knows he scolded you and demanded his documents back. He should remember you saying you wouldn't warn him or be responsible for his documents anymore, since he accused you of punishing him for scolding you he clearly remembers what happened.
"So then why in the world would he not at minimum ask you if you were going to bring it? He's very irresponsible and very rude to you. You shouldn't have to miss your vacation due to his negligence."
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