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Paige Holland

Man puzzled as girlfriend dumps him because of love language test from 1992

A test designed to find out how you give and receive love in a relationship is supposedly tearing couples apart.

The Love Languages Test was created by Dr Gary Chapman, a doctor of philosophy and author of the 1992 bestseller The 5 Love Languages, on which the test is based.

He teaches that there are five ways that people receive and express love in a relationship - acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, and physical touch.

The premise behind the theory is that once you know both your own and your partner's love language, you can learn the root of your conflicts, connect more profoundly, and truly begin to grow closer.

However, the results seem to be causing conflict in some relationships.

The test is putting a lot of couples to the test (Getty Images/iStockphoto)

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On Twitter, journalist Hussein Kesvani surmised whether the theory has "ruined" relationships.

He said: "I do wonder how many relationships Love Languages as a theory has ruined because of how well it fits into a culture where all relationships are categorised, have transactional elements embedded with them, and are broadly digitally mediated and primed for mass participation."

Writer Caspar Salmon responded: "I can tell you for a fact that a friend of mine ended things with someone fairly recently not long after being asked what his love language was. (Other factors may have been involved)."

Another person confessed: "This s*** made my girl break up with me. Was doing everything possible to make her happy, just because she’s found someone new.

"She began saying I don’t even know her love language. The s*** was new to me and I got so confused. Like all I’ve been doing wasn’t a love language?"

"Soooo many couples break up because they don’t feed each other's love language," said a third.

Someone explained why this happens, writing: "One of the reasons why people break up when they’ve been together for a long time is cause they don’t adapt to the changes in love and love language . People changes over time and so do love ."

A few people said that having a differing love language with their partner would be a deal-breaker, as one person wrote: I’m inclined to end things with a guy if he was to say his love language is physical touch, I have a rough idea of what to expect."

Another agreed: "We might as well break up if you can’t love me in my love language cus then ima cheat and get it somewhere else."

A third social media user wrote: "The sad thing about love languages is that you could genuinely love someone with your entire heart, but they will never feel it. They may know it, but never feel it, because the way you express your love isn’t how they receive love."

However, one person said that it's down to each of us to share our love languages with others so we can be loved the way we need to be.

"It's your duty to teach people how to love you," they said, adding: "Communication plays a critical role in love languages. You could genuinely love someone with your whole heart, but they will never believe you because you are not translating your love language into something they can understand."

Fancy taking the Love Language Test yourself? You can do so, here .

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