An anonymous man has been criticised online after he made "shallow" comments about a woman he went on a date with - as he thought he was agreeing to meet up with her friend instead.
The man explained that he works as a waiter and recently served two women who came in to "celebrate an engagement ", and said that while one of the pair was completely his type, the other woman wasn't someone he would usually be interested in.
When the two women left the restaurant, one of them had written their name and phone number on a piece of paper for the man and he assumed it was the one who was his type, so he began texting with her.
The pair quickly hit it off, but when they agreed to meet up for a first date, the man found he'd actually been talking with the other woman - and accused her of "catfishing" him because she wasn't the woman he assumed she was.
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In a post on Reddit, he said: "I work as a waiter in a small restaurant where the owner encourages us to make conversation.
"A beautiful girl and her friend walked in when it's practically empty and I served them. The beautiful girl was exactly my type looks-wise, cute, perfect height, and perfect weight. The friend is the opposite, short, buzzed hair dyed an obnoxious green, and [overweight].
"When I ask what brings them in, they say they're celebrating an engagement. Then they laugh and clarify not to each other, but never clarified who was the one engaged.
"I made some more conversation with them. As I took her order the friend asked a ton of questions about the menu items and I got the vibe she was trying to flirt with me but to my relief, she finally ordered her food and let me stop talking to her.
"As they were leaving, I noticed the beautiful girl putting down a tip on a slip of paper with her name, Raya, and a phone number.
"Raya and I texted non-stop for the next few days. We hit it off really well, she was honest to me about her insecurity about her going to her friend's wedding alone when she is the only bridesmaid, her picky eating, her being bullied her entire life, and we basically swapped life stories before we ever went on a first date.
"I even promised her I would attend the wedding with her in a month. I was already so in love with this girl."
When the man found out who he had been texting, he claimed that the woman must have got her friend to put the piece of paper down to trick him and called her a "liar" - even though she never pretended to be her friend.
He added: "I'm sitting waiting for her and it's five minutes past the agreed-upon time and she's not there. Her friend finally walks in. I get super confused, she waves and giggles as she sits down across from me. I ask where Raya is and she clarifies that she IS Raya while acting all confused.
"It clicked in my head instantly that she made her friend put the number on the table so I would think it's her much prettier friend than her. I accused her of catfishing me and she got all defensive and said the beautiful girl was the one getting married, so why would she leave me her number?
"I said 'I'm just going to leave', and she asked me about the wedding she was so excited for, but I said I don't go out with liars. She started bawling and said she's not a liar."
Commenters on the Reddit post were largely on the woman's side, as they said that while it's okay for the man to have a preference when it comes to dating, he was out of line to make "shallow" comments about her appearance.
One person said: "I think you're trying to make yourself feel better about being shallow by convincing yourself that her friend leaving her number for you was some sort of big trick to catfish you. Have you never heard of an outgoing friend trying to wing-woman or man their less confident friend?
"Just admit that though your personality’s clicked you weren’t physically attracted to her, rather than pretend you're not dating her cause she ‘lied’ to you because it sounds better."
While another added: "The way you talk about women is honestly terrible. No person is actively going to try and trick someone they are interested in by having [someone else] set down their number to get a guy's attention in that way. Get off your high horse honestly."
And a third wrote: "You are actually the worst. Reading this post made me furious. It's been a while since I've read a post this misogynistic. Attraction is important in any relationship, but your attitude is flat-out disgusting."
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