That one off-site meeting in Gurugram changed everything in my life. It brought me love and ruin, both. Things turned up so unexpectedly that I never had the slightest idea that the man who’s a favourite and the most popular one among all would be my husband.
We met during an off-site meeting. We both worked in different teams but I noticed during the offsite that he was the most popular man. Anywhere he would stand and talk, it would turn into the most happening place at the venue. He radiates warmth, happiness and security; people love him! He always helps everyone and this trait makes him win over everyone, including me.
On the second day, he started paying attention to me. His enigmatic personality attracted me to him and soon we started dating after we both initiated a conversation together. We simply clicked and what I loved most about him, is his ability to make others smile. He is selfless and always thinks about others, before him. When our team was about to fall into big trouble, he took the fall and took responsibility. That was the one thing that made me fall in love with him completely.
We dated for 6 months and it was blissful. He is patient, kind and very soft-hearted. He never turned anyone away. There have been times when our dates turned into a get together because he couldn’t say no to people wanting to hang out with him. He could never say ‘no’ to people’s requests. But I didn’t pay much attention to this; I was deeply in love with him. There were a few red flags that I avoided because I kept reminding myself “I am lucky to have him, the one who everyone wants.”
By the end of the 6th month of our dating, he proposed to me for marriage! He told me, he knew I was the one and so, I happily said ‘yes’! My happiness knew no bounds. Our families were very happy with our decision to marry. On my wedding day, I was told by everyone I am the luckiest girl on this planet. From my family to his friends who turned up for the wedding, everyone kept reminding me how fortunate I am for my husband is the best man a woman can ask for. Today we have been separated for over 3 months and their thoughts still reverberate in my mind - Yes, he is a very good man but he was not a good husband.
I felt like something was amiss but couldn’t point out. My husband focused on everyone but he never made time for himself, or let’s say, his personal life including me. Even after marriage, we were never alone together, let alone going for a romantic dinner date. He always invited people over and talked heartily with them, but he never made time for me alone. He was always looking to help people; this one time, he helped my mother when she fractured her foot. He did everything for her, and this made my heart swell. These instances made me back down with the negative thoughts I had started having.
But as time went by, nothing changed.
My ex-husband never took out enough time for me, as he was always trying to help or counsel others in times of need. What about me? I needed his presence beside me but he was never there. I tried to communicate my feelings with him and told him that we both needed to spend more time together as a married couple but to no avail. Despite my constant efforts, he was out there helping others and seeking validation from them. My love was never enough for him.
I began resenting him so much for his extra-kindness. It hurt me so much to beg him for giving me time, attention and love, even though I was his wife. That’s when I decided, I cannot live with such a man. Separating from him was extremely difficult and hurtful, but It’s good for me. I know.
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